42 Steps To Being More Confident And Attractive With Women

1. Begin to practice by looking at a strangers in the street. If staring at a stranger in the eye is initially too difficult, make things easier by focusing on the bridge of their nose.

2. After becoming comfortable looking at the face of the stranger, progress by looking into the eyes of the stranger and try to hold the glance for a second or too. At first this will seem difficult and confrontational, but after 5 or 6 attempts you will no longer see this as an issue.

3. After cracking maintaining eye contact with a stranger in the street, try holding a glance with an attractive woman in the street. If glancing at an attractive woman is a little too far at this stage, practice by looking at women you don't find attractive, and gradually build up.

4. Begin to crack the 'approaching a woman puzzle' by approaching strangers on the street.

5. In order to feel comfortable doing this, think of a question that ordinarily you wouldn´t have a problem asking a stranger e.g. Ask if they have a lighter you can borrow, or ask if they know the directions to a certain place.

6. Once you become comfortable asking a stranger a question, try and expand the conversation a little.

7. Once the stranger answers the question, ask them another question. For example, if you ask for the directions to a place, after the directions have been given, ask the person if they have been there themselves or ask them what the place is like.

8. After becoming comfortable with this process, make a conscious effort to do exactly the same thing but to women you find attractive.

9. If approaching attractive women and having a mini conversation with them about directions etc is too nerve wracking, again you must start at the beginning... First ask for a lighter or directions and after a few attempts and when this begins to feel natural, expand the conversation by asking for their opinion on whatever the topic of the question is that you have just asked.

10. At this point you should be now comfortable with maintaining eye contact with stranger in the street and with approaching a stranger, asking a question and having a mini conversation. You now need to marry the two together.

11. Tell a friend or family member that you want to practice speaking to them and maintaining eye contact in a conversation.

12. Then practice having a conversation with a close friend or family member whilst looking them in the eye.

13. After this becomes natural carry it through to people in the workplace. These should be people that aren't strangers but aren't close friends or family.

14. After cracking this, carry the same process through to when you approach and have a conversation with someone on the street. Throughout the whole of the conversation make a great attempt to maintain eye contact.

15. You are now at the point where you can maintain eye contact with strangers and attractive women in the street whilst having a mini conversation about something trivial. You should now be looking to apply these new confident actions to women in social situations where it is perfectly natural for strangers to meet and have a conversation, for example when in a bar.

16. Takes all the previously mastered techniques and adapt them to this slightly different situation.

17. Change the types of questions that you ask these attractive women.

18. Rather than asking for directions or a lighter (as these wouldn't really make sense in a bar) ask other non-intrusive, non-personal questions to maximise your chance of a response.

19. Asking for a woman's opinion on something usually works best. Try asking totally neutral questions like "My friend wants to get his girlfriend a birthday present but he can't decide on getting her a puppy or a kitten. Which would you prefer?"

20. When approaching and asking non-intrusive questions to women in social situations begins to feel natural, again, try and expand the conversation by asking follow-up questions. e.g. After her reply to the puppy or kitten question, ask her if she has pets and don't hesitate to tell her about yours.

21. If you feel that the conversation is getting stale, or you are running out of things to say because you are inexperienced in small talk, politely excuse yourself by saying that you have to go a meet your friends etc.

22. With practice you will gradually build up a repertoire of things to say and you will become more adept in the art of small talk.

23. Being able to chat for a while in a confident and interesting manner is a major key in becoming attractive in the eyes of a woman.

24. When talking to an attractive women always be yourself.

25. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't because when she finally sees through your act, you'll quickly become unattractive.

26. After speaking to an attractive woman for a while and building a rapport, tell her that you would like to see her again and ask if you can have a her number.

27. If asking for her number is too nerve wracking at this stage, offer to buy her a drink. The act of buying and giving her a drink will sit better in your own mind and because you have given her something (that she has accepted), asking her to give you something (her number) then becomes a lot easier.

28. After buying a few drinks and asking for (and getting) a few numbers, you should have earnt yourself the confidence to ask for a woman's number without having any problem, so stop buying drinks and just ask for her number.

29. If the woman is ever going to find you attractive it will be in the first couple of minutes of conversation, so buying her a drink to get a number is not necessary.

30. After building a rapport with the woman you find attractive, ask if she would like to go to another bar or somewhere else with you to increase attraction.

31. Changing scenery with a woman increases attraction as she will associate this action with trust and something she would only normally do with friends, family or a partner.

32. Whilst in conversation with a woman, touching helps to increase attraction.

33. HAIR - Women don't go to the hairstylists so often simply to maintain their gorgeous locks. The process of going to the hairstylsts and basically having their head massaged for an hour actually a stress reliever. Tell her she has a hair out of place and gently stroke your hand through her hair - this will send tingles down her spine.

34. SMALL OF HER BACK - Whilst standing in a crowd or noisy place, place your hand against the small of her back. Doing this shows that you feel protective of her without being too pushy like an arm around the shoulder might be seen to be. After all, you're not her boyfriend just yet!

35. PALMS OF HER HANDS - The palm of a woman's hand is a good spot to focus a little attention on without making her feel too uncomfortable. Pretend that you can tell what her star sign is (or something similar) by looking at the the palm of her hand. Trace your finger along her palm to give her pleasure and send shivers down her spine, and ultimately to increase her attraction to you.
Texting After Getting A Number

36. No matter how excited you might be (especially if this is one of the first numbers you've successfully managed to get) always leave a couple of days before texting.

37. Never start saying things in a text that you didn't dare say to her face when you met her as she was attracted to you on that night, not this guy who is now acting differently behind the comfort of his mobile phone.

38. Never put more than 1 kiss on the end of a text message as doing this makes you seem desperate.

39. Always include content in the text message that relates to what you did with her and spoke about that night. This reminds her about the conversation that you had and reinforces the reasons why she finds you attractive.

40. Though nerve wracking at first, approaching a date needs to be no different to approaching a stranger for the first time.

41. The only reason that going on a date puts pressure on yourself is that this time you know that you like this woman enough to see them for a second time, and you don't want to mess things up.

42. Approach the date with a clear mind and with the thinking that if it doesn't work out then it's no big deal as there are plenty of other women in the world that you can attract and obtain numbers from. This should put you in a state that sufficiently reduces your nerves to a point that you feel as natural approaching a date as you do when approaching a stranger and asking a question.