First off, avoid dating occasionally. Dating is a continuous activity (until you find that perfect girl to settle down with), so you have to keep the momentum going. Try to schedule a date or two a week to maintain your vigor.

Remember that dates are supposed to be fun. Always strive to enjoy dating activities even if you may not be compatible with your date. Dating is just one aspect of socializing, so seize the opportunity by spending time in the company of new acquaintances whether or not they bring you a sparkle. Truth is, most people are interesting in some way and this may be the chance to find new friends or simply learn new things.

If you would rather take the girl out, read The Myspace Pickup Guide to get a few ideas of places to go. There are a lot of different places you can go and things you can do. It all depends on you.

The first date can be very stressful for the girl, so her defenses will be up and she will be nervous. After all, she just met you, and this is the time she gets to know you. For this reason, a great first date should involve a good chunk of humor, followed by relaxation, and then lead to isolation.

If you want to take the girl out to some venues, first get familiar with your area. You can do this any time by going to a local travel agency, information center, or even to the nearest airport. They have brochures that list the best things to see and do in your town or city. Often times you may discover places you never knew about.

One idea that works wonders is taking her to a comedy club. When you watch stand up comedians, both of you are guaranteed a laugh. If the comedian is good, his jokes will make you cry from laughter. If he is bad, you will laugh at how bad the jokes are. Laughter is like a drug. When you laugh, you brain releases mass amounts of endorphins, and you become happy and relaxed. Laughter is the best way to eliminate the anxiety in the girl or yourself at the start of a first date (some might argue that alcohol is better, but that comes later in the date).

Another reason laughter works is because women will tend to associate their positive feelings during the date with whoever they are out with, rather than the specific events of the date. If you take her out to a comedy club, the comedians will make her laugh, but she will probably forget most of their jokes and remember how much fun she had being around you.

Avoid anything that creates the date atmosphere she is used to. Do not plan to pick her up or mention the word "date" at all.

The reason is that when a woman is in a dating mindset, she is aware of your every move and advance. It's as if there is a spotlight that is pouring down upon you, watching your every move. She's watching you, analyzing your moves, the words coming from your mouth, your "dating" actions. She has the checklist out and is looking for things to qualify or disqualify you on. Okay, maybe a bit of an exaggeration, but you can be sure she knows that you want to have sex with her, and to avoid looking like a "slut" who has sex on a first "date," she will more than likely hold back on her desires.

To avoid the traditional date atmosphere, you could say something like "Hey let's hang out Thursday night." That's it. It shows that you're NOT taking her on a date, you are simply hanging out with her. When you choose to simply "meet" with her, she does not have to bother getting into her regular dating mindset because she will just be "hanging out."

If you want more specific advice on how to successfully ask women out on a date, over the phone, read my other lens: How To Talk To Women On The Phone.

Avoid cliche dates. You need to forget about the tradtional concept of dating altogether. Just live your life and take her along for the ride. Kill two birds with one stone and take her out with you on errands, while shopping, to the laundromat, or the post office. Women love cute animals, so even going to a pet store can be fun. Go for a walk in the local park, or to the beach. The possibilities are endless.

Bars and clubs are okay because alcohol helps to loosen inhibitions, and you can also get closer to her more easily (because of loud music you will have to whisper in her ear, etc.) If you choose this option, go around 9PM-10PM before the big crowds start rolling in. Whatever you choose to do, make it something YOU will have fun at, somethin you would do anyway.

Of course going out in public means you have to have clothes and look well groomed, otherwise people will wonder what desert island you were stranded on. If you have hair on your head and a bear, goatee, or mustache, whatever, just make sure to look acceptable. Brush and floss your teeth because you may be kissing her later on. As far as scent, be subtle. Use a body spray instead of a stick deodorant because you want to allow your natural pheromones to seep through. Although this is a highly debated subject, and regardless of the many "artificial" pheromones being marketed, it is a well-known fact that your body does produce natural pheromones. If you want more information and my personal experience with pheromones, read my reviews on my site at www.hypnoscent.com.

Anyway, remember that clothes don't make you, you make the clothes look good. Wear something nice, crisp, and casual that shows your best features. You want to be confident and comfortable with what you wear. Keep it simple.

Smile. Greet her like an old friend who just came back from a trip. Give her a big hug and when you're letting go, hold her hands and look her in the eyes, telling her you're glad/happy that she made it. Be enthusiastic.

Once you settle down and grab something to eat/drink or start whatever activity it is you're doing, being to pry into her mind. Every single word that comes out of your mouth is either going to bring you closer or push you further away from having sex with her. Be comfortable and have a good time, while tailoring your conversation towards saying things that will get her in the mood to have sex with you.

You could start off with basic fluff conversation, such as the weather, how her day was, and other chit chat. As soon as she gives you a tangent for a better, more effective topic, go with that tangent, and keep moving along to different topics at a steady pace. You do this simply by repeating back what she tells you, in the form of a question. She says she used to live in Florida, so you say, "oh really, you used to live in Florida?" And she will go onto explain more. The best way to get her to talk about herself is to ask 4 types of open-ended questions.

-How
-What
-When
-Where

Even though "why" is also an open-ended question phrase, you want to avoid it because it can make a woman defensive when you question why she does things. It can make any one defensive, so just don't ask why. Instead, ask how she felt during certain experiences, how it was, what it something make her feel like, etc. Let her take you on a journey through her life experiences, which will allow you to learn what her buttons are.

Your general sequence of conversation should go from fluff talk, to building a connection, to exciting her imagination (once you know a little about her buttons, her turn-ons, you can feed this back to her), and eventually to making her feel horny.

Never indulge too much about yourself on a first date, because women tend to be more interested in men who are mysterious and like the thrill of the chase. Make sure that you are talking about feelings, because women don't process facts and logic, they are stimulated by emotions only. Don't beat her to death with interview questions, make her FEEL things and you will attract her. When you talk about experiences and various feelings, take her through a little rollercoaster of positive and negative emotions. This will give the perception that she has known you for a long time.

You want to ask meaningful questions that will help you get to know her. Okay, so you may still be drawing a blank on conversation topics. Basically, your mindset should always be thinking of her as just another chick. She's not special. You want to evaluat her to see if she is worth YOUR time. Even if she is the only girl you're taking out that week, you should treat her as though you have several other women lined up to call and have sex with at any given time. If you actually had five women ready to come over and hop in bed with you, you wouldn't sweat the small stuff. You would relax and just have fun...

Treat her like your bratty girlfriend. Not bratty little sister, because as far as I know, most normal guys don't want to have sex with their sisters. That's a terrible analogy and I see it used too often in the PUA community. Anyway, when she's on a date with you, she already likes you to some extent, otherwise she would not be there. So be comfortable as if you've known her for a long time. Tease her, tickle her, etc. Joke around with her. For instance...

You: "you know what?"
Her: "what?"
You: "you're really cool" (while you look her in the eyes and place your hand on her thigh)...but (some funny thing you can pick out about her)"

I can't emphasize this enough, but get her to talk as much about herself, WHILE you are in teasing/flirty conversation. You want to dig into her life, literally, and find clues about her strengths and weaknesses. Don't make it like an interview, keep the flirty vibe going. Get her to talk about her childhood, her dreams, her challenges, her enemies, her heroes/heroines, her favorite pastimes, etc. It doesn't have to be serious, for example, rather than simply asking what her dreams are, you can ask...

You: "when you were little, what did you want to be when you grow up?"

A simple question like that can lead onto talking about childhood and plenty of fun and silly things about when you were both younger. If you're a bad listener, all you have to do is repeat the last few words of each sentence, and pretend like you're listening. You want to create a connection on the first date. Make her feel like you are the male version of her. Agree with her as much as possible but also offer your experiences to keep it from being boring.

But try to listen because when she tells you about herself, you understand what kind of woman she is and how to handle her. Knowing what makes her feel certain emotions such as happiness, safety, hate, comfort, love, etcl, will give you the key to making her feel those emotions with you later on. Besides, it will make her feel really appreciated when you are genuinely interested in her.

Still, it's okay if you're not a great conversationalist, because "actions speak louder than words" and men are about action. Keep things light, sexual, and physically escalate all the while. If you're looking into her eyes just kiss her then, do NOT hesitate. Men are bold, women are hesitant. Choosing a traditional date idea can work sometimes, but kiss her in the middle of the date instead of waiting for the end when she is expecting it. That way you can be making out by the end. Be spontaneous.