How to Become a Successful Parent

How to become a successful parent to a teenager?

The much-anticipated teenage years!.Since the approach of potty-training, has any stage of development causedsmore sleepless nightsto parents than adolescence. Parent would wonder What to say about sex? Religion? Cars? Jobs? Drugs? What to say about friends? What about College?

What is that my kid is wearing, reading, listening to?
Perhaps much of our parental anxiety stems from our own memories of the teen years. For most of us, there are more than a few emotional, physical and mental scars from that very turbulent and vulnerable process of development. It is understandable that we worry about what challenges our own children will face in a world that seems a little harder and more chaotic.

"How to become a successful parent" to this teenagers? The best approach or the best 'philosophy' to apply when it comes time to dealing with your teenagers?

First. Recognize that your teen is just as scared as you are, though he or she may not show it. Value that fear for the real emotion that it is. They have good reason to be afraid as never-before-experienced thoughts and feelings spring up along with their surging hormones.Second, realize that your teenager has a growing awareness of the approaching complexities and responsibilities of adult life. This includes everything from their place in the economic cycle to the state of world peace or the environment. Try to encourage and guide this awareness in a healthy way as your teenager tries to answer the age questions of "Who am I and where do I fit in?"
Know, that the process might be frustrating at times. You'll find yourself struggling to find a way to explain and defend your beliefs in ways you haven't before. Do it anyway. Your teen will appreciate your ability to talk to them and listen to them about their opinions on important issues. You both might learn something from each other!

Give your teenagers the tools they need to function in the real world. Teach financial responsibility. Model a good work ethic.Many teens leave high school and even college feeling drastically unprepared for the real world. They need to learn everything from how to do laundry to how to cook a meal. They need to learn how to unclog a toilet, change a tire and balance a checkbook.Give them freedoms, but enforce your boundaries. No matter how 'big and grown up' your teenager feels (or seems to you), he or she needs to know that you're there as a stable and authoritative source of love, advice and support.

Your teenagers will go a different direction than you wish. It is inevitable at some point that your teenagers will choose differently than you. In relationships, career, lifestyle, politics, etc. They'll vary from whatever hopes and dreams you have held for them. Grieve for that loss, but realize it was just a dream. Your teenager is not an extension of you, but a unique individual in her or her own right. This may be one of the hardest lessons to learn, but it really is the ultimate lesson when parenting a teenager. You have to 'be there' and 'let go' at the same time.

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Dealing with aggressive behaviors of a child is part of becoming a successful parent.
Imagine for a moment that your child is in an aggressive phase, and often hits or bites his playmates. If you believe in teaching cause and effect in a healthy way, then you do not hit or bite your child as punishment.

Instead, you would take him aside and explain to him that his friend Is not going to want to play with him any more if that behavior continues. If he repeats the behavior, you would end the play session early as punishment, to show him that he won't be allowed to play at all so long as he behaves aggressively.
In order to remain consistent, you would also apply this technique to positive situations. For instance, when your child does something nice for someone else, you would then praise him and point out the cause and effect between the desired behavior and the positive outcome.

It is never too early to start applying this skill. Toddlers are at a prime age to learn about cause and effect, but babies begin to notice relationships between actions and outcomes as early as four to six months.

Be gentle, patient and consistent in your approach, and remember to tailor these lessons to your child's unique personality.

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Experts identify four different types of parenting styles. These styles are known as "authoritarian", "authoritative", "permissive" and "neglectful." There are important differences between each of these styles, and there is one style considered ideal above all the others. We'll review each one individually now.

AUTHORITARIAN

The authoritarian style of parenting is the 'old, stereotypical style best described in phrases like "children should be seen and not heard" and "spare the rod, spoil the child."

Authoritarian parents expect a high degree of conformity and compliance from their children, and are more likely to use corporal punishment as discipline.
The problem with authoritarian parenting is that the 'rules' often change at the parent's whim, so the child never truly know what is expected. One could describe the situation as 'unfair' and threatening.
Many children raised by authoritarian parents live in a constant state of fear. They tend to display less self-confidence and are socially withdrawn.
PERMISSIVE

Permissive parenting is typically characterized by a warm, loving relationship between parent and child, but is flawed by low expectations of behavior. In other words, the permissive parent is usually afraid to make demands on the child much less hold him to any standard.
Children raised by overly permissive parents tend to suffer from a lack of focus, immaturity and problems with emotional regulation.
NEGLECTFUL

Neglectful parenting is best described as a step beyond "permissive" parenting. The neglectful parent may provide food and shelter, but is generally emotionally uninvolved in the child's life.

A good example of this would be parents who never ask their child questions about their day, their friends, homework, etc.. A neglected child may have serious issues going on outside the home, but the neglectful parent is never aware of them until something potentially tragic occurs.

AUTHORITATIVE
This type of parent holds high expectations of the child's behavior while allowing an open dialogue with the child about those expectations. Rules imposed on the child are fair and expressed clearly. The authoritative parent teaches the child about cause and effect, decision-making and self-sufficiency.
Children raised in an authoritative environment have more self-confidence and initiative, are liked and respected by their peers and will be generally well-rounded adults.
Out of the four different types of parenting styles, the authoritative style is considered ideal.

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