Surviving a Sexless Marriage

Women want to discuss everything. I know I do. Whenever there's a problem in my relationship with my husband, I want us to talk it out. I've always felt that it was best to just be direct - regardless of what the issue was.



When my husband stopped wanting sex, I started to feel so many things. Along with the rejection and disappointment, I was sad and angry. I felt as though we were living like room mates and I worried about where his sex drive had gone. Each time he made an excuse not to have sex I wanted to press him about why and what I was doing wrong. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was making some huge mistakes when it came to dealing with the problem of my sexless marriage.



Common mistakes that you do not want to make when you are trying to recapture the intimacy in the relationship with your husband:



Show your anger over the situation with him. Many men feel a strong association between intimacy and emotion. If you are angry with him about his lack of interest in sex, he'll feel as though he's failing you. This will make it more difficult for him to feel the urge to be intimate with you.



Accuse him of cheating. Most men who have lost interest in their wives sexually are not having an affair. If you accuse him of cheating this will suggest that you don't trust him. If he feels this, he's going to struggle more with wanting to be intimate.



Make him feel guilty. When a woman is frustrated over the lack of intimacy in her marriage, she may be tempted to say things to make her husband feel guilty. This will likely result in him withdrawing more.



Compare him to another man. Never compare your husband to another man when it comes to sex. This includes any past lovers you've had or things you've heard about the men in your friends' lives. What other people are doing in their bedrooms has no place in your relationship.



There are proven techniques to getting your husband interested in sex again, find out what they are now.

I think one of the most frustrating things for me when my husband and I were struggling with intimacy issues, was his attitude. He honestly didn't seem to care about the situation and whenever I'd bring it up, he'd shrug it off and say it was just the way marriages ended up.



I knew that wasn't the case. I had friends who would brag about how often they were being intimate with their husbands and many of them were married longer than I was. I wanted to understand exactly what was at the root of our problem, but I realized I first needed to put myself in his shoes.



There are many reasons men ignore the issue of a lack of sex in their marriages. Men aren't as comfortable communicating about their feelings as women are and talking about something so personal can lead a man to feel a whole host of different emotions.



Insecurity is one emotion that men loathe and when it's associated with their relationship they hate it even more. Embarrassment, humiliation and guilt also come into play when a woman starts discussing intimacy with a man.



Talking about these things in the wrong way and at the wrong time, can actually damage the relationship. Find out how to fix the problem the right way - now.

In my pursuit of more intimacy in my relationship with my husband, I looked at any information I could get my hands on. Our marriage was wonderful in so many ways, and I wasn't about to let it slip away just because we weren't being as intimate now as we once were.



Then I came across some writings by Kate Dixon. She obviously had a clear and thorough understanding of the issue of marriages without intimacy. She knows exactly why men lose interest in sex and what role their wives play in it.



I bought her eBook, I sat down and read it and everything in my marriage changed. I quickly realized, once I started reading, that my approach to the problem was actually making the situation worse. Instead of encouraging my husband to want to make love I was actually pushing him farther away.



The book is filled with loads of information that is all related to the woman's point of view when she's in a sexless marriage. It helps you to understand what your husband is feeling and exactly what you need to be doing to recreate that bond of intimacy you once had.



One thing that made this particular eBook so appealing were all the bonuses.



In addition to the book you get 2 month free email consultation with Kate Dixon! She's widely regarded as 'The Sexless Relationship Expert. You can explain your unique situation in detail to her and get her honest, truthful and incredibly helpful feedback.




You also get some other valuable ebooks. One I really enjoyed is called Turn on The Heat! Once you and your husband do rediscover the intimacy this just adds to your sex life. Lots of fun and hot tips you can use in here.




101 Romantic Ideas is written by Michael Webb. You may have seen him on Oprah. This is a great book that you can use to get fun ideas for romantic gestures that will make your husband feel incredibly special and loved.



Overall, this is a wonderful tool for any woman who loves her husband and misses being intimate with him. You must follow the suggestions in the book if you want to recapture the passion that the two of you have lost. Try it and you'll be grateful that he's back to being your lover, not just your husband.

Some tools to keep the spark in your marriage alive:



500 Secrets About Men Understand everything about men - including how they think and feel. This is a priceless resource.


Sexy Letters What better way to tell your husband how much you desire him than in a spicy letter.

What Husbands Can't Resist A wonderful guide that focuses on how to get your husband to fall in love with you all over again. Explains in detail how to get him to be romantic and attentive. Highly recommended.