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Kids & Teens Deserve Accurate & Unbiased Sex Education NOW!

Abstinence-only programs and a lack of discussion about birth control methods and prevention of disease transmission have left many teens and young adults at risk of unwanted pregnancies and various sexually-transmitted diseases.

The best thing that could be done would be to provide access to technically-accurate and honest sex education. I think the education needs to come from outside the home, so that kids get more and better answers and I think our government needs to get off their religiously-blinded backsides and keep their moral opinions out of education if they really want to reduce teen pregnancies and slow the transmission of STDs.

Sex education doesn't lead to more sex, it leads to safer and more responsible sex!

What do you think?

The Birds and the Bees 

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The Pros and Cons of Abstinence-Only 

Having been pushed as the model for sex education during the Bush administration, here's how abstinence-only education has been doing.
Survey: Fla. Teens Believe Drinking Bleach Will Prevent HIV - Orlando News Story - WKMG Orlando
ORLANDO, Fla. -- A recent survey that found some Florida teens believe drinking a cap of bleach will prevent HIV and a shot of Mountain Dew will stop pregnancy has prompted lawmakers to push for an overhaul of sex education in the state. Wednesday, April 2, 2008.
Oral Sex Among Adolescents:Is It Sex or Is It Abstinence?
The reports in the popular press that oral sex has become widespread among adolescents cannot be confirmed or refuted because the data to do so have never been collected. Moreover, adults do not really know what behaviors teenagers consider to be "sex" and, by the same token, what they consider to be its opposite, abstinence. All of this leaves health professionals and policymakers without the means to effectively address these issues.
Study Casts Doubt on Abstinence-Only Programs - washingtonpost.com
A long-awaited national study has concluded that abstinence-only sex education, a cornerstone of the Bush administration's social agenda, does not keep teenagers from having sex.
The Failure of Abstinence-Only Sex Education | New West Network
With some American churches now hosting the Horrors of Hell rather than Halloween, one would assume that American teenagers would have more respect for sin and fewer instances of sexually transmitted diseases. But just as with President Bush's tactics in the War on Terror, fear alone is not doing the job.
AlterNet: Rights and Liberties: The Expensive Failure of Abstinence Education
The Bush administration's point man for conservative -- and often morality-driven -- social policy, such as abstinence-only sex education, has resigned. But only time will tell whether his programs remain federal policy.
Abstinence Education - Let's talk about sex
Cowed by the dominance of conservative religious lobbying organizations in the Republican Party, Bush has decided that it ought to be against the law for public schools to teach teenagers anything about sex other than the reasons that they shouldn't have sex. That's really all that abstinence-only education is: Adults nagging teenagers not to have sex, then not saying a word about how to handle it if they do have sex.
McCain to Preach Abstinence in S.C.
Most presidential candidates are trying to get people to say "yes." Republican Sen. John McCain will be encouraging South Carolina students to say "no."
Abstinence Only
You and your faith partner have chosen a path of mutual love and adoration through physical respect.

YOUR TURN TO WEIGH IN! 

How do YOU feel about sex education versus abstinence-only?

What do you think about sex education? Do kids do best when told the facts or is telling them to "just say No" the way to go?

What I think was the best part of what I learned in my sex educator training was to take my own beliefs out of the discussion. I was there to answer questions and provide the best and most up-to-date information available, not challenge someone on their morals or tell them what was right or wrong. I might tell someone that they were contemplating something with a high degree of risk, but I never said things like "Eeew, that's gross!" or "People like you shouldn't be allowed to act that way" which is unfortuately what a lot of people face when they are just trying to ask a question. And a lot of the questions were about non-PV (penis-vagina) sexual practices, something that many parents are not about to discuss with their kids, and which kids don't want to ask their parents about.

Ever wonder why Florida teens think that drinking bleach will prevent HIV, or that drinking Mountain Dew or smoking marijuana can prevent pregnancy? It's because they are being raised and schooled by adults who are themselves totally ignorant of the facts and realities of sex and birth control.

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Comprehensive and accurate sex education programs should be available for children and teens (and adults) in school and through public health programs!

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thebaboonking says:

While I believe sex education is very important for kids and teens, every attempt to educate me about sex has failed. The teachers were always very embarassed when approaching the topic of sex, and it always had a very chaotic atmosphere because every kid had a different level of knowledge on sex.
I think that parents should teach their children about the basics of sex at an early age, because when that child is a teenager they will find it very uncomfortable talking to parents about it. That's when sex ed in schools should kick in.

Tonique says:

Sex education should be in schools, but when it comes to the moral side of sex (abstinence/waiting for marriage) it is really the parents job to teach them what they believe. But all children should learn the medical facts about sex pregnancy, periods, contraception and STDs

Duckylurve says:

Without a doubt! Sex is a perfectly natural and wonderful thing that kids need to understand to be safe.

Treasures-By-Brenda says:

I think programs for everyone should be available through school and public health programs but that is not to say that I think parents are 'off the hook.'

Brenda

Jack2205 says:

Teens should be taught everything that they should know about sex through school programs, but younger children are too young for it.

No way, Monkeybrain!

jprice says:

I think that was more a failure in science and common sense for someone to think that drinking chlorine would stop HIV and Mountain Dew would stop pregnancy. And yes oral sex is sex...

I just don't trust the government with anything... I believe parents should stop being lazy and teach their children something for once!

Runningbandit says:

Just leave it to the parents and not schools. The schools are pretty Biased- "SEX BAD".

eccles1 says:

They can't decided on evolution or creation and now we are going to trust them to explain about the birds and bees ??
without knowing the difference between these two their answers can only be more control bull! :)

ideasbymarz says:

We can't even trust the education system to adequately teach the 3 Rs and now you want to entrust them with something this important??? I think it would be better to educate families on how to communicate better on the subject.

blue22d says:

"Children" covers a wide age range. I do not believe children of ages 5,6,7 need to learn about some of the issues that are being push by so called "educators", especially the methods that want to use. I do not believe children raised in traditional families (husband/wife) could possibly or should be introduced to various "life styles".

If believe teens can benefit from sex education (reproductive system, sex organs function)but I am still in favor separating the sex in its teachings.

 
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The Consequences of Bad (or No) Sex Ed 

reaping what we sow

The societal results of a lack of sex education, whether it comes from parents at home or in the schools, is something that ripples on for years. People only teach what they know, and if they aren't up-to-date, then that lack of information gets passed along.

The cheapest and most effective way to lower teen pregnancy rates and to reduce the transmission of STDs is to make sure kids and teens are given education about everything, even the topics that make parents squeamish. Otherwise, here's what we get...

WHAT SHOULD WE BE TEACHING? 

There are many facets to sex education and most of the present quandry relates to the fact that many people support some but not all aspects of providing information on reproductive health and sex.

Please indicate which areas or aspects of sex education you feel would be beneficial to young people. Be sure to read down the entire list before you start voting so that you understand exactly what the different choices represent. You may vote for more than one option.

Safer sex and STDs

Provide information about sexually-transmitted diseases, what sexual practices can transmit them and how to use condoms to prevent the spread.11 points

How bodies work - mixed gender

Co-ed health classes where boys and girls learn about the anatomy and physiology of both genders.6 points

Reproductive health

Teaching how male/female reproduction works and how pregnancy can happen.6 points

Birth control

Education about the many methods that are available to prevent unwanted conception.6 points

"Alternative" sexual education

Discussion of different sexual orientations and sexual behaviors that are not related to conception/human reproduction.6 points

Abortion

Discussion about and providing information regarding how to terminate unwanted pregnancies.5 points

About your body - gender-separate

Separate boys and girls health classes, where they just learn about their own anatomy and physical development.1 point

Recommended Sex Education Books for Children 

The earliest questions most children have around sex deal with wanting to know where babies comes from. However, it's also a good age to start teaching them how their own bodies work and that sexually-transmitted diseases exist.

Here are books for teaching young children or pre-teens about sex. Recommendations here are for books that cover the 4-12 year old age range.

Kids First Book About Sex

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Amazing You: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts

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Dr. Ruth Talks To Kids: Where You Came From, How Your Body Changes, and What Sex Is All About

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It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library)

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RELATED NEWS: FODDER FOR ARGUING MORE 

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Philip N. Cohen: Whose Right to Sex Education?
What did we get for $1.9 billion? Nothing good. Abstinence-only education has been shown to have no effect on how much teenagers have sex - none.
Now this is sex education
Now this is sex education. November 8th, 2009 ยท No Comments. A SCHOOL has suspended two teachers after claims that teenage pupils on a cultural trip to the Far East ended up watching a live sex show in Bangkok. ...

Take a look at the Sex Education Debate 

see how our society has been debating this issue


Comprehensive Sex Ed vs Abstinence Only

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Have you talked with your children about sex education?

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The hypocrisy of anti-abortion and abstinence-only policies

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Situation Room: Abstinence Only Education

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U.S. Sex Education Debate- Part 1: The Students

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Dan Savage and Amy Richards on Abstinence-Only Sex Education

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Sex Ed Books For Teenagers 

Many parents find it awkward or difficult to talk to their children about sex. Once your children become teenagers, it gets even more complex. Many parents find themselves having to answer questions about things that literally didn't exist or weren't a concern when they were teenagers themselves. Sadly, the answer many teens get when their parents are uncomforable with a subject is "just don't do that..."

Here are some great books about reproduction and sex that can help parents and teens get through all those rough topics together.

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: Expanded Third Edition: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships

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S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College

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GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens

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Girlology Hang-Ups, Hook-Ups, and Holding Out: Stuff You Need to Know About Your Body, Sex, & Dating

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How to Talk with Teens About Love, Relationships, & S-E-X: A Guide for Parents

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Sex Ed Info for Teens and Young People 

My first experiences giving sex education came unexpectedly and with someone I never would have guessed. It was 1987, I was in college and my mom was asking me about AIDS. She's married (over 40 years now) and knew it wasn't something she'd be dealing with herself, but as the mother of two daughters, she wanted to know more. And she knew her eldest child (me) was the kind of person who sought out this type of info with a vengence. My roommate was taking the first ever class taught about it at our school, a medical overview/lecture class, because she had a cousin who was dying of the disease. I had friends who freaked out when I said I'd talked about sex with me Mom, especially as it included things like details about oral and anal sex.

How do you get sex education if you don't know who to ask? What if you feel funny asking a question? Or harder still, what if you person you ask feels awkward or uncomfortable talking about the topic? This is the biggest hurdle to parents providing sex education. They might be able to provide some good basics on male/female reproductive sex, but as soon as you leave that narrow band of knowledge, many parents fail to speak to their children about any other sexual practices. Nor do most parents know that hepatitis C can live on open surfaces for up to six months and resists all but the most potent viricides.

Here are some highly-recommended web sites that provide information on a wider range of topics than what you will get at home, and no one has to be embarrassed about it.

So... got anything else to say about it? 

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mivlipod wrote...

Its required much, In some countries like India, Still its not applied. This education should taken same as math and science classes.

ReplyPosted July 04, 2009

jura wrote...

Great lens.

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Treasures-By-Brenda wrote...

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Brenda

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kiwisoutback wrote...

Great idea for a debate, nice work!

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AndrewGreen wrote...

I agree that sex education is important, but here in the UK, since we have introduced this subject in schools the pregnancy rate has increased amongst our Teenage culture. This tells me One of Two things. Iether we are teaching them incorrectly OR we are teaching them at the wrong age. ( Too young.). And now our Government are talking about lowering the age that we start teaching sex ed. in schools.

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