Parenting a Teen is a Challenge
Do you live with a teenage girl? Well, I live with two teenage daughters, and to save my sanity, I have learned some parenting tips to deal with the changes that all teen girls go through.
Living with a teenager girl is like living with Dr. Jekyll and Ms. Hyde. You never quite know which person you are talking to. One day they are polite, helpful, and surprisingly mature, and the next they are moody, bored, and rebellious. And that is only the beginning. So read on, laugh a little, and become a part of the teenage behavior survivors club.
TeenAger Parenting Tips

- Teens on the Web
- What to Do To Survive With A Teenage Daughter
- Mothers Are Crucial
- Teens Eat a Lot But They Are Very Picky
- Real Pressures Teen Face
- Just Got Braces?
- Typical Teen Behavior
- Teen Rebellion with a Twist
- Helping Deal with Your Teen
- An Interesting Theory on Teen Behavior
- Positive Teen Role Models
- What Do You Think?
- Fathers are Vital
- Parenting a Teenager
- Sites Where Teens Spend Their Time
- Teens Will Be Teens
- Books Teenagers Read
- Teens Go Green
- The Green Teen: The Eco-Friendly Teen's Guide to Saving the Planet
- Green Topics to Get You Started
- Mom, Why Do I Have To. . . .
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Teens on the Web
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What to Do To Survive With A Teenage Daughter
Or How to Attempt to Keep Your Sanity

- Ignore the moods--they really have nothing to do with you personally. She is just being a teenager (morphing into an alien). Really.
- Speak to your daughter
as if she is a rational being. There is one hidden under the hormones.
- Hug and kiss her even when she pulls away. She secretly wants to hugged even if it is not cool.
- Don't try to be perfect. You are much more believable when you aren't. Then she won't feel like such a failure if she makes a mistake. And being imperfect is so much easier.
- It's okay to get angry, and disappointed, but stay in control. She is learning from what you do. If you have to, walk away, then come back when you are in control.
- Tell your daughter
stories of what goofy things you did as a teenager. You did some pretty dumb things, right?
- Find ways to laugh. When you laugh together, it brings you closer.
- Get to know her friends. Looks are not everything.
- Choose your battles. Remember you can always cut off the purple hair while they are sleeping.
- Make them stick to the rules. Having the rules really makes their lives easier. It's not having rules that confuses them.
- You don't have to be your daughter's best friend. Let her pick a best friend from her peers. She needs you as a parent more.
- Say no. Again, and again, and again. No should mean no.
- Give your daughter privacy, but let her know that privacy is a privilege.
- Don't forget in all the craziness to tell her you love her. Girls have it tough. She needs to know.
Mothers Are Crucial
You are a role model.
Teenage
Have you set firm rules for your daughter
What kind of example are you setting? Are you confident in yourself so she will learn to be?

Being a teenage
Being a woman is also very confusing. You, as your daughter's role model, are very influential--even when you think they are not listening.
Teens Eat a Lot But They Are Very Picky
Healthy teens are easier to live with

Have you ever really thought about how teenagers eat? We know that they are always hungry. At least it seems that way in my house, but what exactly are they eating and is it fuel for their bodies and minds?
Teens burn off a lot of energy through growth, but they need to learn to eat in a healthy manner to start their adulthood strong.
It is often tough to control what they eat, but you can help by having healthy snacks in the house, and teaching them quick and easy recipes that they can made for themselves.
I recently taught my daughter
With so many health food grocery stores these days, there are more and more convenient and easy ways to eat healthy snacks and meals. Help your teens grow up eating healthy foods as a matter of course, instead of forcing themselves to because they know it is good for them. Healthy teens are much happier teens.
Real Pressures Teen Face

Being a teenager has always been a tough age. The tug of war between childhood and adulthood mixed in with changing hormones and peer pressure has been in the mix for generations. Nowadays, however, teenagers face more and more dangers that even their parents never even heard of.
HIV is alive and well, and safe sex practices are not just to avoid pregnancies anymore.
We hear about teen shootings in schools every few months. We had one here in Cleveland, just a few months ago, and I happened to know a teacher in the school.
Drugs are prevalent in all levels of society. Although we don't hear about it quite as much as when I was a teen, the danger is still quite current.
And for girls there are added pressures.
Self-confidence is extremely vulnerable in teenage
Self-confidence is very important in teenage decision making. They are already fighting peer pressure constantly. It is critical to help them like themselves as people.
Girls face body image issues constantly. From magazines, TV, movies, and online, they are bombarded with inappropriate images to aspire to, including unachievable body images, inappropriate behavior, and negative role models.
One minute they are watching a show on a Nickelodeon or Disney channel, and the next they hear that their favorite star is pregnant or featured online in compromising photos.
Parents need to know even more now, than they did in the past, what their children are doing, who they are doing it with, what they are watching on TV or online, and who they are corresponding with.
It is our job to teach our children that people are not always who they say they are, and how to be responsible adults.
And then we need to trust them until they prove us otherwise.
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Typical Teen Behavior
Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager, Revised and Updated
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Teen Rebellion with a Twist
Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations
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Helping Deal with Your Teen
10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior
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An Interesting Theory on Teen Behavior
The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids
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Positive Teen Role Models
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What Do You Think?
Girls or Boys

The Age Old Question--Are Girls or Boys Harder to Raise?
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QueSea says:
Girls without a doubt! Something about that mother-daughter thing (smile).
Posted October 21, 2009
QueSea says:
Girls, without a doubt! Something about that mother-daughter thing (smile).
Posted October 21, 2009
aj2008 says:
Has to be girls - I have three and their brother was definitely easier than any of them!
Posted August 12, 2009
WendyKrick says:
I have 3 teenagers and girls are harder only because they are way more sensitive and emotional.
Posted December 08, 2008
Jewelsofawe says:
I am going to say girls. My stepson, also a teenager of 16 is easier than my girls
Posted December 07, 2008
vbright105 says:
Girls. I've had 4, and had 6 step kids, equal amount of boys and girls. Girls are MUCH tougher, in my opinion, to deal with
Posted September 19, 2008
annetteghallowell says:
I only know girls as my one and only 18 year old daughter just left for college! I have heard from friends with both that girls win by a landslide! FYI-after 16 she turned human again!
Posted August 23, 2008
Stazjia says:
I think girls are generally more difficult because they mature earlier than boys. They are also harder because us mothers can usually remember exactly what they're going through and have to not let empathy interfere with good judgement.
Posted August 23, 2008
Boys--How Can You Even Think Differently?
uptoyou says:
I raised 2 of my neices and three boy's of my own.
If I have to choose which was easier I say boy's,but keep in mind the problem's are alway's different between the both
their really is no easier.You just have to love them all through whatever they are going through.
Posted December 08, 2008
rms says:
Everyone tells me that boys are easier but I don't have any daughters to base that on.
Posted September 24, 2008
Evelyn_Saenz says:
Either boys or girls are the most difficult at different times and yet having the privilege to raise them is the most rewarding experience.
Posted September 21, 2008
Fathers are Vital
You teach your daughter what men are like

The father of a teenage
Fathers teach their daughters how men treat women. And they do this every moment of every day by their actions and interactions with the women around them.
How do they treat their own mothers? Their wives? Their daughters? Do they really listen to what women say to them? Do they respect their female relatives' opinions?
How do they speak about their female coworkers? Their bosses? And at their angriest, do they take out their strength on their wives and daughters?
Fathers help a daughter
And you are her protector. And sometimes her excuse to get out of doing things she really doesn't want to do with her friends anyway.
Parenting a Teenager
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- Teen parenting is an a challenge at the best of times ranging from the exhilarating to the terrifying. Parenting teens successfully rarely happens by accident.
"Don't forget to listen to your daughter, and tell her you love her."
Sites Where Teens Spend Their Time

- Fan Fiction
- This is a site for fans of anime to write stories and read other fans' stories.
- Youtube
- Lots of TV and videos
- My daughter is on this, and so am I. Not just for teens.
- MySpace
- MySpace is becoming passe here with the friends of my girls, but lots of kids still use it. It has gotten a lot of press for not being safe for kids, and not having the kind of security that Facebook has.
- Cartoon Network
- Cartoon Network online and on television.
- Disney Channel
- Disney Channel is working hard to appeal to teens and it is working to some extent, especially with girls.
- Manga
- One site to find manga. Pretty much any manga site will attract teens.
- Itunes
- If it had to do with music, dvds, podcasts, or anything audiovisual, Itunes is the favored site.
- Veoh
- This is a site like Youtube with videos.
- Joox
- Another video site.
Books Teenagers Read
This is the beginning of a list of books teens love. Please feel free to add to this list.
Megatokyo, Vol. 3 by Fred Gallagher
The wildly popular American manga web comic hits i more...0 points
Yurara, Vol. 5 (Yurara)
"When a young girl is called to fight evil sp more...0 points
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (Book 7) by J. K. Rowling
Readers beware. The brilliant, breathtaking conclu more...0 points
Gossip Girl #1: A Novel (Gossip Girl Series) by Cecily Von Ziegesar
lder teens and adult readers can't get enough of G more...0 points
Naruto, Volume 30 by Masashi Kishimoto
Naruto is a ninja-in-training with an incorrigible more...0 points
InuYasha, Volume 1 by Rumiko Takahashi
Transported back to Japan's feudal era, high schoo more...0 points
Teens Go Green
Give your teens a cause to fight for

Here are some examples of green teen organizations:
--The Green Teen Community Garden Program
--Teen Green: Local Teens Making a Difference
As I find more, I will add them to the list.
The Green Teen: The Eco-Friendly Teen's Guide to Saving the Planet
And more green teen resources

The Green Teen:
The Eco-Friendly Teen's Guide to Saving the Planet


Today's teenagers are standing at the crossroads of environmental history. Global warming will fundamentally change the world as they know it within their lifetime. But how to keep their healthy environmental awareness from becoming environmental anxiety? The secret is to provide them with education and tools for positive action.
Written in easily accessible language, The Green Teen combines simple and quick eco-friendly tips, interviews with "green teens," ideas for organizing and communicating environmental change, and a host of resources in a handy "grab-and-go" format. Teens will learn:
* How the choices they make each day impact the environment
* How to fit eco-friendly decisions into their tight schedules and budgets
* How to effectively get today's decision makers involved in environmental stewardship
Teens want to learn how to minimize their environmental impact at home, at school, and in their communities and get their concerns recognized by school officials, politicians, media, and even their own parents. The Green Teen is the book that will help them do it, and it is also a must-read for parents, grandparents, teachers, and school administrators who want to help the next generation make environmentally responsible choices.
Generation Green: The Ultimate Teen Guide to Living an Eco-Friendly Life

Generation Green:
The Ultimate Teen Guide to Living an Eco-Friendly Life


Review
"Every generation thinks they want to change the world. If the latest generation is serious about it, Tosh and Linda provide the blueprint. This book is deep and yet fun and smart and filled with great tips, facts, stories, and interviews. Every school needs to have Generation Green as part of their curriculum!"
-- Ed Begley, Jr., Living with Ed, for Discovery's Planet Green
"The guide is packed with tons of tips for becoming eco-chic..."
-- Teen Vogue
"We've got Generation X and Generation Y. Generation Green has a much better ring to it!"
-- Amy Edelen, co-host of FreshlyGreen.com & co-owner of YourGuidetoGreen.com
"Generation Green is a fast-paced and easy read for any young adult who's interested in finding purpose in their life and making a difference. If you know a teen that longs to be inspired by something more than reality TV, Generation Green is chocked full of fun and easy-to-apply actions which prove how small things can make a huge impact. Buy this book for every teen you know and allow them join with us to transform the world!"
-- James Arthur Ray, New York Times best-selling author of Harmonic Wealth
"Linda Sivertsen is the greenest person I know. She was born green!"
-- Leeza Gibbons
We all know about the Earth's environmental crisis, but there is someone who can truly make a difference: you. If you text your friends or chat with them online, download music to your iPod, or toss bottles and papers into recycling bins, you're already more eco-savvy than you think. It's just as easy to do even more to help save the earth, and Generation Green shows you how. This book:
* Lays out the inside scoop on the biggest issues affecting our planet, such as global warming and overflowing landfills
* Offers dozens of tips on how to shop, dress, eat, and travel the green way
* Includes interviews with teens like you who are involved with fun, innovative green causes
* Shows that being environmentally conscious can be a natural part of your life -- and your generation's contribution to turning things around.
It doesn't matter if you can't vote or drive. Your efforts -- big or small -- will contribute to saving the planet. It's time for all of us to take action. It's time to go green!
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Mom, Why Do I Have To. . . .
Finish the Sentence With Your Teen Experiences

aj2008 wrote...
This is a brilliant lens. One daughter is way past her teens (phew!) but the other two are fast approaching - their poor father is in for such a shock. There''s some great advice here - I agree with the one about "Pick your battles" - I conceded defeat in the "Battle of the untidy bedroom" with Daughter Number 1 as there were others that were more important to fight, like going to school EVERY day!!
Thank you for this lens Paula, it has reminded me of some very important tactics. SquidAngel Blessings from a grateful Angel.
sunita wrote...
Your lens is inspiring.Sometimes it is difficult to handle teenagers,but with patience and love ,they can understand our point of view.
Teen parenting Help
WendyKrick wrote...
Wonderful lens. I have Three teenagers two of which are girls. Jaimie is 17 and Jessica is 14.
JaguarJulie wrote...
Well, if you asked my mom about this, she'd tell you that I personally was an angel amongst my sisters and brother as teenagers!!! Yes, truly. ;) Now, my one sister was rather 'heck on wheels' and the great equalizer -- her daughter turned out to be 'heck on wheels.' Ah, to be a teenager again! Terrifically inspiring lens Paula.
Jimmie wrote...
I've only got a few more years until my Sprite is a teen. Wow do the years go fast! I think that our relationship will weather those storms of the teen years, but I do believe that the foundation is laid now, when the daughter is young.
JustBon-Crochet-Designs wrote...
I have a 27 year old son...and that can be like dealing with a teenager sometimes ;)
Jewelsofawe wrote...
Thank you! I have 3 teenage daughters ages 17, 15 and 13. I needed the manuscript of how to deal with them.
p.s. I am surviving somehow...lol
beeobrien wrote...
I'm just learning about all of this. Thanks for the guide.
funwithtrains wrote...
Great lens, 5 stars! My daughter is 5, so luckily I have a little time before I have to deal with most of these concerns.
Evelyn_Saenz wrote...
In the midst of it all, loving it and hating it and preparing for another round.
rockycha wrote...
Outstanding lens, deep and relevant! High Fives and lensrolled to my girltech. :D
WendyKrick wrote...
I have been really blessed. I have two girls Jaimie (17)Jessica 14 and I have a 12 year old named Josh. I love these ages. They are each so unique. I love being their Mom. I love this lens Paula. 5 stars.~Wendy
poddys wrote...
Very nice lens, 5***** Teens are hard to live with, you love them and hate them... With luck they learn to understand where you are coming from by the time they reach their 30's...
vbright105 wrote...
I have one teen left. IF she survives it! I just keep thinking what I put my parent's through at that age (although, not near as much as she does!) 5*
susannaduffy wrote...
Are they really human? Sometimes I wonder about my daughter and try to remember if I found her under a cabbage leaf and have forgotten about it. 5* for reminding me about the importance of building self confidence in teenage girls (and for telling her that you love her)
mulberry wrote...
I never had any teenagers. It was knowing that one day any baby I had would become a teenager that prevented me from having kids. (just kidding, mostly) I know I was a very moody teen!
eccles1 wrote...
'a teenage girl is like living with Dr. Jeckyl and Ms. Hyde. You never quite know which person you are talking to'..tooo funny but so true keep up the great work
The_Party_Animal wrote...
be home early - everyone else is allowed to stay out late
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