The road to successful dating starts with the quest to find the right boy. Boys with similar interests in music, movies, books and other topics are a great first screen. Having similar interests helps to foster conversation and cements strong ties. While attraction is certainly important, keep in mind that you may be attracted to someone based on factors beyond just physical looks. A good sense of humor and a kind personality are always important characteristics for someone to have. Having compatible personalities is key, and often the strongest attractions we have are to those people with whom we have the most compatible personalities.

One of the most exciting and sometimes anxiety filled phases of dating is flirting. This is an ancient dance of getting to know each other better. Flirting should be fun, not stressful. Here are some things to keep in mind. Find casual ways to share experiences with the boy--lunch, school activities, concerts or other activities with a group. This gives both of you a chance to better know each other without a lot of pressure. Harmless teasing and innuendo filled conversations in person or via IM or SMS are popular and tested methods of flirting.Being close to him physically by sitting, standing or walking next to him will let you know if he his comfortable with that intimacy. The key to successful flirting for girls is to be able to control the flirting. It is during this critical stage when you can assess if the interest is mutual. If you find him accepting invitations to spend time together or making invitations, it is a sure sign that he is interested and you can spend time in smaller groups on by yourselves. Remember that if he is not reciprocating interest in a shared relationship, he is probably not interested.

Once you are dating someone, there are a few things to keep in mind to keep it fun and positive. First, always be yourself. Guys hate when girls are not themselves. Remember he wants to date you, not someone pretending to be you. Express yourself and expect the same from him. There is nothing that will kill a relationship faster than mistrust and misunderstanding. Be clear about expectations or limits regarding physical intimacy. Don't be afraid to talk to him. Keep doing the things that you both enjoy doing together. If you are not having fun together, the relationship will not last. Have Fun! Dating should be fun and exciting.