There Is Nothing Unusual about Being Single
There is nothing unusual in being single - 48 per cent of Britain's population say that they are not currently in a relationship. The Office of National Statistics says that the number of Britons living
alone has almost doubled in the last 30 years to 10 million. And, by 2010, the single population is expected to hit 16 million.
Figures published last week by the market researchers Mintel reveal that even people with children are less likely to be couples these days - single-parent groups represent a fifth of the country's families.
Marriage May Destroy Your Creativity and Your Career
From The Globe and Mail - Social Studies - July 5, 2003
"Young men looking to make their mark may want to hold off on those wedding plans," says The Week magazine. "A study of the lives of 280 successful scientists throughout history found that their creativity dried up once they wed. Two-thirds of the scientists made their most significant contributions to science before they hit their mid-30s and before they were married. Once the men settled down, they seemed to lose their edge - while unmarried scientists continued to make great scientific contributions. Marriages have an equally dampening effect on musicians, painters and authors." Satoshi Kanazawa of the University of Canteerbury in New Zealand theorizes that testosterone-driven men are trying to impress women with their viruosity.
Infedelity Surrounding Money - Another Reason to Remain Single and Not Be Married
"Sex may be the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word 'infidelity,' but there are other types of 'unfaithful or disloyal acts,' other ways spouses cheat on each other. A major one is money," Sharon Jayson writes in USA Today.- "Many couples commit monetary deceit in their marriages. Someone lies about finances or doesn't share the details. It can be innocuous, such as fudging on the cost of purchases or hiding a spending spree. ... What do experts advise couples to do to avoid financial infidelity? Former accountant Tina Tessina, a psychotherapist in Long Beach, Calif., and author of the new book Money, Sex and Kids, says dual-income couples and stay-at-home parents should have some discretionary money to feel 'a little autonomous.' How much should a person be able to spend without consulting his or her partner? Amounts vary with the couple's economic status, but Tessina says an average couple should discuss spending more than $200."
"Your
Singles
Advantages"
Your Singles Advantages
After 13 years of marriage, British writers Margaret Drabble and her husband Michael Holroyd decided to live together in the same house.Prior to taking the plunge, they lived in separate homes about 20 minutes away by car. Separate houses enabled them to leave their pages all over their respective places, work according to their own timetables, and avoid domestic disputes.
Clearly, Drabble and Holroyd were experiencing the advantages of the single life. Here are some of these singles advantages:
- You can work at home according to your own timetable.
You don't have to worry about the headaches that the opposite sex can create.
You never have to have domestic disputes.
You can leave papers all over the place.
You don't have to worry about a spouse getting fat on you.
No obnoxious in-laws to complicate your life.
Positive people look at divorce as opening up fresh opportunities to enjoy life in new and exciting ways.
Eighty-four percent of all brides want to lose weight before their wedding. Not getting married means you don't have to feel guilty about not losing weight.
The average cost of a Canadian wedding is about $20,000. Just think what can do with half of this money. There is another aspect to this: "The length of a marriage is inversely proportional to the amount spent on the wedding."
"At every party there are two kinds of people- those who want to go home and those who don't. The trouble is, they are usually married to each other." - Ann Landers
More Singles' Advantages Featured in a Letter to Ann Landers
Here are some more singles' advantages someone included in a etter to Ann Landers:- Nobody barges into the bathroom.
You can watch your chick flicks without a man rolling his eyes.
You can use the time you'd have spent picking up his socks to upgrade your skills.
You can eat whatever you want. If you gain a few pounds, so what?
You can spend your money on what you really like.
You don't have to watch or pretend to enjoy football. Ever.
- From a letter to Ann Landers featured in The Journal on February
11, 2002.
"Letters about the
Original Edition of
The Joy of Not
Being Married"
A Letter about The Joy of Not Being Married
----- Original Message -----
From: "Lynn Jordan" <lk.jordan@sympatico.ca>
To: <vip-books@telus.net>
Sent: Sunday, March 02, 2008 10:53 PM
Subject: thanks
- Ernie:
I am reading your book The Joy of Not Being Married.
I love it.
Thanks for convincing me that I am normal.
Married twice. Divorced twice. I have put my life on hold, waiting for that perfect person to come along. I have finally realized my mistake. Now I have to make up for lost time.
A big thank you!!!
Lynn
For Married People: How to Spot an Adulterer So That You Can Divorce and Be Single Again
According to David Buss, a sociologist at the University of Texas, there are certain traits that may indicate whether a person is cheating on his or her spouse. Personality traits are a much more accurate predictor of infidelity than social status or the nature of their sex lives.Spouses likely to be unfaithful are likely to exhibit these traits:
* Spending a lot of time looking in the mirror
* Running up debts
* Forgetting to thank friends
* Walking out of a room without turning off the light
* Arriving late for dinner or meetings
* Finding practical jokes amusing
* Laughing at injured cats or dogs
- The Best Thing Cheaters Ever Said
According to a website (http://www.chatcheaters.com/whatcheaterssay.html), "Cheaters come up with the wildest stories, especially if they get caught unexpectedly." The website asked people to post their cheating mates excuses: Here are some of the best:
* Do you believe me or your own eyes?
* You are trying to control me and it is not going to be that way
* I don't know why I gave her my phone number
* It's a fatal attraction
* I have a present for you and if you don't go away I won't give it to you
* If you were a better wife and a better lover, i would not have to turn to other married women.
* If you would join me in the swinger's lifestyle, it would not be considered cheating since you would be right there with me.
* I just wanted to have a friend of my own.
* I thought about you the whole time it was happening.
* I could never bring myself to cheat on you. That girl that called claiming we had sex was a basket case. Ask anyone.
* With every one of them, I fantasized it was you"
* She's a good friend of my mother.
* I missed you and she looked like you.
* Oh that number on my cellphone is just a side job.
* If I wanted to cheat, I wouldn't be cheating with a married women.
* I can't break up with her instead of you because you can handle it better.
Of course, if you aren't married, this is another singles advantage - you don't have to be worried about living with an adulterer.
Another Singles' Advantage - Army Retirees Warned to Watch Out for Their Wives
Wives Can Make Your Retirement Miserable
This comes from the Uganda's The New Vision
Army Retirees Urged to Watch Out for Their Wives
The UPDF 3rd Division commander, Brig. Patrick Kankiriho, has advised retiring soldiers to watch out for spouses who love lavish lifestyles.
"If your spouse is a spendthrift and is not willing to adjust, abandon her, as she is bound to lead you into misery."
He made the remarks on Friday during a function at Rubongi Barracks in Tororo district where 57 UPDF soldiers retired. He told the retirees that they had left the army with a modest financial package which they should invest wisely.
"Irresponsible spouses are planning how best they can get a fair share of the money you have worked for before eloping away with other men."
He added that such women prefer staying in the cities. "She will insist that you rent an apartment in town then she will lure you into spending money on luxuries till it is finished."
Kankiriho also cautioned the soldiers against over drinking. "If you do that, you will never regret why you retired from the force," he added.
Army Retirees Urged to Watch Out for Their Wives
The UPDF 3rd Division commander, Brig. Patrick Kankiriho, has advised retiring soldiers to watch out for spouses who love lavish lifestyles.
"If your spouse is a spendthrift and is not willing to adjust, abandon her, as she is bound to lead you into misery."
He made the remarks on Friday during a function at Rubongi Barracks in Tororo district where 57 UPDF soldiers retired. He told the retirees that they had left the army with a modest financial package which they should invest wisely.
"Irresponsible spouses are planning how best they can get a fair share of the money you have worked for before eloping away with other men."
He added that such women prefer staying in the cities. "She will insist that you rent an apartment in town then she will lure you into spending money on luxuries till it is finished."
Kankiriho also cautioned the soldiers against over drinking. "If you do that, you will never regret why you retired from the force," he added.
Other Singles Resources by Ernie Zelinski
For Singles and Those Who Wish They Were Not Married
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Someone Who Is Using "101 Really Important Things You Already Know, But Keep Forgetting" for Their Career Change
For Singles and Those Who Wish They Were Not Married
----- Original Message -----From: "cashews1" <cashews1@telus.net>
To: <vip-books@telus.net>
Sent: Sunday, February 24, 2008 8:23 PM
Subject: I finally found something I can relate to
- Hello Ernie:
Just about finished your 101 Really Important Things You Already Know, But Keep Forgetting and am loving it. ( I did skim to the end ahem.)
I think I will definitely have to take this book with me when I retire and purchase my motorhome.
(Should there really be a space in motor home?
Just doesn't look right lol. I don't think I could possibly remember everything you have said in this book so I'm sure it will be well read (and worn out) over the years.
Thanks for the write.
Sincerely,
Kathryn
More Resources by "The Joy of Not Being Married" Author Ernie Zelinski
Singles Resources to Help You Remain Single
See:
Ernie Zelinski's Books on Self-Publishers Place
Retirement Letters from Readers of How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free
Top-10 Retirement Jobs - The traditional Top Ten Retirement Jobs and the Top Ten Cool Retirement Jobs
Magical Career Change - Escape the Organization for Good!
Fools and Their Money - Why Americans and Canadians Are Fools with Their Money
Ernie Zelinski's Books on Self-Publishers Place
Retirement Letters from Readers of How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free
Top-10 Retirement Jobs - The traditional Top Ten Retirement Jobs and the Top Ten Cool Retirement Jobs
Magical Career Change - Escape the Organization for Good!
Fools and Their Money - Why Americans and Canadians Are Fools with Their Money
