I have always believed that everything happens for a reason, and I have also always refused to have regrets, because everything that has happened to me has made me the person I am today. Each and every event that occurs leads us to another, and another, forming an intricate and unique personal web that forms the life we live.

This book works on these principles, teaching us how to deal with the more difficult times in our lives and allow them to soften and guide us, rather than harden us and make us fearful.

By accepting ourselves, and others, including all our faults, and by staying in the moment and allowing life to move through us rather than resisting the change, we can allow the magic of the universe to bring us what we desire.

All things, good and bad, have lessons for us. I am a firm believer that life will keep throwing the same hardship at you until you learn the lesson it has to teach, thus allowing you to move on. Instead of running from the darker times, instead of being rooted in fear, Chodron encourages us to see it as the spiritual opportunity that it is, and embrace it, live it, and learn from it.

There is much wisdom in this book, and while I love all of her works, I do think this is the most profound and life changing. She looks at human behaviour, the patterns of Ego and the way in which we instinctively run from fear, avoid the pain of facing things head on, and seek comfort instead. These are the things we do which keep us from realising our potential, from achieving our dreams, and from living the life we want to live.

Chodron uses Buddhist techniques to teach us how to stay in the moment, and how to have compassion for ourselves and others, so that we can face the scarier moments of life without running or hiding. She talks about bodhichitta and tonglen and how we can apply them to our lives.

Reading this book and drinking in its wisdom will allow you to face your fears head on, and move forward with courage into those places that most scare us. It is definitely one of the most beautiful and inspiring books I have read in a long time.

Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity."

- Pema Chodron
The Places that Scare You

Pema Chodron: Fear and Fearlessness

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  • DebMartin Feb 12, 2014 @ 7:33 pm
    Just went on my reading list.
  • Arachnea Feb 09, 2014 @ 10:46 pm
    Regardless of what one's own personal religious path is, one can definitely learn from the wisdom of other people around the world.
  • RinchenChodron Feb 09, 2014 @ 6:23 pm
    I love Chodron's books - she is very down to earth and compassionate. Great review. Read this book everyone!
  • nancycarol Feb 09, 2014 @ 3:43 pm
    I rarely get scared of anything...not because I'm brave, but just because I usually find a way around, through, under or over whatever may threaten me. However, I can understand how someone could be afraid of taking chances, of living up to their potential, etc. Thanks for sharing.
  • ItayasDesigns Feb 09, 2014 @ 3:33 pm
    This sounds like a book I would enjoy reading. Thank you for the review. I believe that what we resist, persists so that belief should be inline with her book. :)
  • Brite-Ideas Feb 09, 2014 @ 3:13 pm
    thank you for this review, I'll remember this book as a choice for a friend of mine (and myself) - I'm truly mastering living in the moment - I think it became a gradual event - first thinking years ahead, then months ahead, then weeks ahead, then days ahead, and now I'm literally in the day I'm in (probably mastered this starting last year - it's a peaceful way to live - the only thing I have to watch for is to ensure things that need to be pre-planned get done, because I'm so much in the moment, I now have to make an effort to ensure future events that need to be addressed get addressed! lol
  • OceanFaerieGoddess Feb 09, 2014 @ 3:48 pm
    It is so peaceful isn't it! :) Thank you for sharing!
  • tonyleather Feb 09, 2014 @ 3:07 pm
    Sounds like a very good book!
  • Steve_Kaye Feb 09, 2014 @ 1:59 pm
    Yes, this is very helpful. I am finally realizing that my greatest teachers have been the people who challenged me the most.

    I'll add that fear leads to hate and hate leads to terrible decisions. So managing fear is the key to effective, joyful living.

    Thank you for publishing this review.
  • OceanFaerieGoddess Feb 09, 2014 @ 2:55 pm
    That is so very true Steve! Thank you and blessings
  • DaisyDixon Feb 09, 2014 @ 1:50 pm
    I really liked the quote you picked from the book. This sounds like a book we all could benefit from reading- great review!
  • andreea22 Feb 09, 2014 @ 11:42 am
    I have read something like this and it did helped me to find my internal peace.. even though it was for a short time. Great review and congratulations on Review of the Day!
  • Susan52 Feb 07, 2014 @ 3:18 pm
    Love your opening paragraph! I'm sure I'd love these books, too.

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