Hard To Get Back Together? Here Is Something That Will Help You Get Back Together Fast

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Sick And Tired Of Trying To Get Back Together?

I understand that after trying everything you can think of to get back together, you finally decided to seek some help. I'm glad you did that. Because here is your chance to find the answer to all your questions.

So now is time to stop whatever you did so far or what you have planned to do to win your partner's love. Trow away the flowers and the heart shaped chocolate, delete those touchy emails you wrote. Wipe your tears, my friend, and take a deep breath. I want to show you now how to successfully reanimate your relationship. And how to take control of your love life from now on.

No Success With Your Ex So Far? Here Is Why 

Nothing you have done so far works to get your ex back. So you think maybe a nice present will help. Or trying to sincerely apologize. You can prove how much you really care. There must something to make a breakthrough and get back together.
But the truth is that you are going the wrong direction. And to understand better why, let's see a little example:

The teacher steps into the class room: the students are talking, screaming, running around, not even noticing her. But she had some news to announce. If she will start talking right away no one will hear what she had to say. So before that she have to silence them somehow, she have to make them notice her and what she have to say...Start to see my point?

My friend, you are not heard because you don't know how to make yourself noticed. You don't know how to silence every other noise on the background, in order to be heard loud and clear.

And here is how you do that.

You Should Be Apart In Order To Get Back Together 

First thing to do is to accept and agree with the breakup. Is a difficult thing to do, but there is no way around. Especially if you have trying too hard to get your ex back. You see, for as long as your ex is saying "is over!" and your answer is "not yet!" there will be an endless argue between you two. It only make your ex want to prove you wrong. Arguing is not communicating. And the worse part is that when two people argue, none of them really listen to the other.

The moment you agree with the breakup, your ex will have no reason to argue any further. Finally there is silence. He/she can relax and let everything sink in. You also can use this break to accept the facts and calm down. Instead of an "yes-no" argue, we have now two silent people thinking. Trying to figure out life without each other. And this is the factor that will turn everything in your favor.

Time For Patience 

Next step may seem even harder than the previous one, but don't underestimate its importance. Because what you will do now is minimizing any contact with your ex. No more phone calls, messages, no more "accidentally" bumping into each other. You accepted the breakup, and now you will prove you were serious.

How is that working in your favor? By allowing some time apart, you give all the situation space. You get your ex thinking about your relationship. Missing you and the time together. Whatever reason was there to breakup, time will make it seem less important. The difficulties and problems you had in your relationship start to fade away, and the positive sides become stronger.

As for you, this time apart should help you reevaluate things before getting back together. Make an effort to understand what went wrong and what should have been done different.

And most of all, you get all the silence you need in order to be heard.

Not Too Soon, Yet Not Too Late 

In many cases, accepting the breakup alone is enough to make people change their mind. To open up for other possibilities. They made their point, so no energy is wasted anymore in being angry.

If your ex didn't gave you any sign yet, maybe is a tough case. Don't despair and let's see how we proceed further.

Supposing you did all the above steps and didn't lost your mind yet, you are now in an excellent position to make a "coming back". Your ex is missing you and somehow regrets giving up so fast. You know the value of your relationship and how to improve it.

And here is the trick. Your first "coming back" contact shouldn't actually be a coming back, but a reinforcing the breakup call. "I just wanted to thank you for the great time we had together before moving on with my life." Grateful and (a little) regretful.
Let all the good memories come back, have a good laugh, be nothing but positive. Don't even consider mentioning mistakes or who is to blame.

Another little "bomb" you can drop is: "i've learned my lesson, and next time i am sure i won't make the same mistake". This suggest some major points: you see your mistakes, learn from them, you don't blame your ex- very important - and your are ready to improve your "next" relationship. Which is something no ex will be able to resist. Those are things we want to keep them for ourselves, not for the lucky "next".

Get Back Together FAQ 

1. How do i know when is the right time to get in contact again?

Depends on the case. I would say that two weeks is a reasonable amount of time to let things settle down. But is possible that your ex will contact you sooner from some reason, and this will be your signal. Also, if there is a holiday or an anniversary, or some special occasion that you will want to use but have to wait a little more, you should do it.

2. Should i apologize if i have hurt my ex feelings?

Yes, but only when the situation is relaxed enough for your apologizes to be accepted. And you have to mean it, and to really learn your lesson.

3.What if my ex is already dating somebody else?

I wouldn't be worry about that. Dating right after a breakup is mostly to prove something to someone. You can even use that in your favor. The only thing that actually matter to get back together is your ex reaction. If there are still feelings for you, everything else is secondary.

4. Is this method working every single time?

Of course not. There will always be cases when the relationship is really over, or it was something temporary, or things are so bad that nothing can save the relationship. But in most "normal" cases this is an excellent method to save a relationship or even a marriage.

4. What if i want a more detailed strategy, to show me step by step what to do?

I totally recommend you reading "The Magic of Making Up", a complete resource that will guide you from the first step of getting back together up to how to permanently improve your relationship and making your partner crave for your love.

5.Do you have more tips?

Watch the video bellow, and more free videos like that to discover easy ways for getting back together.

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