The first thing to do before actually trying to write a speech is to sit down and think about the groom - remember, the best man speech is about him, not about you.

How long have you known him? How did you meet? What do you have in common? Why is he such a good mate? What do you hate about him? What does he like to do?

Just note down whatever comes to you for a few minutes and then try and think of any funny stories that may relate to the topics above - remember that the bride will also be there, so be careful what you choose.

Remember to consider the audience - find out who has been invited, what they know about the groom, whether they'll be able to relate to what you're planning to tell them.

Above all, make sure you don't offend anyone, and since there will be wide age ranges and backgrounds you should play things safe.

It doesn't have to be side splittingly funny, but if it makes you smile, then that may be good enough. Now begins some fun - how can you embellish the story to make it really funny?

Best man speeches are about two things. First they're about thanking the bride and groom on your behalf and the bridesmaids. Second they are about entertaining the guests with a story that can mildly embarrass the groom.

The best way to structure your speech is to get the thanks in immediately and then move on. But in order to help me relax I like to get a joke in to start with and make both the guests and myself have a laugh.

Once that's out they way I can get into the guts of the speech and don't forget to round it off with a conclusion. To start with you may prefer to write the entire speech down, but start by reading it out loud to find what sounds ok - you'll be surprised that much of what is good when written down is no good at all in a speech.

Gradually refine the words and the story until you've got it down perfectly. On the day you just need some cue cards to provide pointers of what you need to say next. You won't forget the punchline, so don't worry about it and the audience wants to be entertained, so you'll have no trouble in getting them to laugh, especially after they've had a glass or two to drink.

Enjoy the day and don't drop the ring. Once you've got that bit over successfully, you'll find that giving best man speeches is not as hard as it first sounds.