In Loveing Memory Of My Brother
My Brother Marty Was are jokester , Who Had a Infectious smile.He was a loveing and careing person who was taken from us way to soon.
To Honor his memory i have created this page . I reach out to others who have lost loved ones to a drunk driver and if i have inpacted one person to think before driveing drunk then i have accomplished What I set out to Accomplish.I loved him So much and to Honor his life I dedicate this Page to my Brother Marty smit . You are forever in our Hearts.
Contents at a Glance
Drunk Driveing Kills
Always Be missed
My brother was comeing up on his 27th birthday and was preparing to be married to a wounderful girl.They where going to put a deposit down on a house ,
a house they planed to raise there kids in ,untill tragedy struck.Here is the story of the day we lost my brother threw my eyes. I was pregnant at a very young age of 18 teen and me and my family where dealing with the issues {seeing i was not married}. Well on march 3 I woke up pregnant as ever and feeling lots of contractions. Well it was off to the hospital for me.In the delivery room I had a weried and indescribable feeling come over me. I had no idea what it was but i had a feeling something tragic had happened. A hour later my new Life was born,
My daughter sara. I knew later my family would arrive to see this New addition to the family.Later my parents arrived and walked Into my room , Little did I know everyone around me Knew what was going on even nick The father of my new daughter. Everyone knew what the tragic news was but me. As my parents entered my room With there tear filled eyes ,My heart sank and was not prepared for the news. My Terriable feeling came true.
To Be Continued>>>>>>>>>>
Dont Drink And Drive
A poem i wrote about the tragic loss of my brother.
by michelle durakis,
My heart is filled with sadness,
Someday's I don't know which way to turn.
To see my brother face to face
To hold him Is what I yearn.
To tell him That I loved him,
And see his precious smile.
Now all I have is pictures,
I tend to stare at them a while.
I have many bitter feeling's
For the person who took my brothers life.
You took away his opportunity to be a uncle,
Father , husband and marry his precious wife.
To stop the killer that took his life,
No matter what the cost.
Without my brothers warmth and smile,
We can't help but feel lost.
You see me every now and then,
In your rushed up, hurried world.
I wish you'd listen to my story,
It would make you're hair uncurl.
I cry, I fight , then grieve some more,
Until I see a change.
If you don't know why I'm here,
To you it might seem strange.
Inside of me is pain so deep, so bad , so real,
I can't even imagine,
How my parents must feel.
We were all our happiest,
Celebrating holidays.
Now where constantly reminded,
Of what we had that was taken away.
I have lost a loved one,
Someone dear in special way's
It's hard for me to look for one bright sunny day.
What bitter word's I tend to speak,
May seem degrading to you.
You have no right to judge,
You don't stand in our shoes.
They still have there precious son,
To hold, nurture and love.
I hope that some day he will turn to the lord
I hope at the end he faces what he has done,
And say's he's deepest regrets.
We long to hear I am sorry,
So we can put our mind to rest.
So in the end I do my best,
To keep someone alive.
Now I tell everyone I meet,
Don't ever Drink and drive!
The Problem
Every single injury and death caused by drunk driving is totally preventable. Although the proportion of crashes that are alcohol-related has dropped dramatically in recent decades, there are still far too many such preventable accidents. Unfortunately, in spite of great progress, alcohol-impaired driving remains a serious national problem that tragically effects many victims annually.
Always Be Missed {part 2}
continued.................
Your brother was killed this morning on his way to work. They have brought him here he is downstairs , there was nothing They could do.Which One was my cry , Not that it mattered but i needed to know which one.. I have to admit I did not cry instantly I was so shocked , this wasn't supposed to happen to are family , Why my Brother he was so sweet so gentle , I just had a baby this is a happy time, why is this happening to my family. Echoed threw my head Talk about a emotional rollercoaster ride. I just could not believe it. When I laid there after my parents left to deal with what they had To deal with the tears , the never ending stream of tears strolled Down my face , the reporters from different newspaper started calling to speak with me it's not every day one sibling Has a baby, while the other is killed in a car crash on the same day, Within hours of each other.
To Be Continued....................
Drunk Driveing Statistics
A drunk driver kills someone every 39 minutes.
A drunk driver injures someone every minute.
Eight teenagers die every day in alcohol-related car crashes.
One survey found that Americans took over 159 million alcohol-impaired driving trips in a single year.
Motorcycle drivers comprise the highest percentage of drunk drivers in fatal crashes, followed by light trucks, then passenger cars.
The highest percentage of drunk drivers involved in fatal crashes are age 18-24 (remember, it's not even legal to drink alcohol until you're 21).
More than half of all drunk drivers involved in fatal crashed have a blood alcohol concentration (BAC) of 0.15 % or more (the legal limit is 0.08 %).
In the U.S., a driver is considered intoxicated if their BAC is 0.08 % or higher. In most other countries, a driver is considered intoxicated if their BAC is 0.05% or even lower. In some countries, it is illegal to drive with any alcohol in your system.
Most people are unaware of these drunk driving statistics, but are appalled once they hear them.
Always Be Missed{part3}
Continued...........
I did want to speak to them it might have been news for them but it was a tragedy for me. He was only Weeks away from his 27th birthday and 2 months away from being married and only hours away from being a uncle for the first Time. I laid there and had to prepare my self for a funeral. They boys who hit my brother where also sent to the same hospital And that is when we found out they where both 18 teen years old And they where very , very drunk.
They had crossed the median and hit my brother head on with there truck, because there truck had a roll bar they survived. I have to say It was the hardest thing in the world for me to walk In that funeral home and see my brother . I never would have expected are family to have to face this. I kissed his precious forehead and held his hand and thought to myself I will never, Not ever forget the joy he brought to are lives , I will never forget His infectious smile and his joyous laughter. He was a man with A wonderful outlook on life. Like it says in the bible The greatest Of these is love , Well he was not afraid to love ,to him it was easily given. He was are sunshine , are laughter , are jokester , And most of all my brother. He will always be missed....
My brothers Car
We reconized this as my brothers car because of the blue ice cooler on the hood . He carried his lunch in that everyday. Just to look at this picture gives me the chills. You can never trully imagine the pain of loseing someone this way unless you have also lost someone this way. You can't imagine the many thoughts i have looking at this picture.Did he suffer , What where his thoughts,did he see it comeing, He was a wounderful human being.He was a Giant of a man.This was a preventable Death....
Speaks For it"s Self
Memory Lane
By Michelle Durakis
All I do Is think Of The Past,
Hopeing my memories always will Last.
When i walk down memory Lane,
There's so many things i wish i could say.
Your voice is something i am longing to hear,
A smile i will always remmember of a brother so dear.
Your laughter is something i wish could last,
But now it is something that lives in the past.
Your hugs and kisses i wish i could feel,
I know longer can , there know longer real.
And as i walk down memory lane,
I wounder why you where taken away...
I'm Free
I'm Free
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God has laid you see.
I took His hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work, to play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Oh yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee
God wanted me now; He set me free.....
Your Feedback Is always welcome
I am glad to share my story with all of you. If anyone out
there who shares my loss feel free to leave your comments
here. All are welcome to leave there comments.Thanks and
Keep someone alive tell everyone you meet DONT EVER
DRINK AND DRIVE.
brian kurnat wrote
I have many fond memories of your brother michelle, as you know from talking to me, whenever i think of any of my times we hung out, brings nothing but smiles. W ouldn't matter mad or sad, MARTY SMIT WOULD ALWAYS BRING A SMILE TO MY FACE HE WAS AN AWESOME PERSON THAT WON'T BE FORGOTTEN.
Posted April 08, 2009
Louise Ann Cronian wrote
Michelle this was the most touching story, I cried. Beautifully said and done. The car alone should be shared with others so they are aware of what drinking and driving can do. I was hit by a drunk lady in a big huge car, she was going 80 and not a scratch on her. You brother who is looking down upon you is safe in the hands of God and says don't cry I am here watching over all those I loved. I am okay. Absolutely beautiful and you and Marty are doing good by sharing.
Posted April 08, 2009
Michael Smit wrote
Very nice Michelle ,fitting tribute to our brother. He was definetly one who touched many peoples lives and hearts. He would be proud of you!
Posted April 07, 2009
Sharon Krupske wrote
I miss him so much! Marty was always the one to make you laugh. If ever you had a bad day, he was the one that you would turn to. Michelle, this is absolutely beautiful! I will never forget him.
I will never understand why bad things happen to good people! It is just not fair.
Posted April 07, 2009
michelledurakis wrote...
in reply to jim wilson Thanks jim so sweet you had me in tears.....
Posted April 07, 2009
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