Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You

Health and wellness expert, Deborah King, J.D., explores why we seem to make the very same mistakes over and over again in her insightful book, Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You.

You may be suppressing truths that are keeping you from accomplishing what you desire and are capable of. Truth Heals helps you open the truths of past traumas, grudges and illusions that we may have about ourselves or others and then release them in a healing manner.

Facing the facts of your hidden truths takes courage, optimism and transforming your mind so that you can eliminate the forces holding you back and keeping you from achieving your goals in life. When you make the same mistakes again and again, there is a part of you that says you aren't worthy, capable - or a myriad of other, negative reasons.

Truth Heals helps you eliminate the reasons for the mistakes and helps you heal the hurt and misunderstandings - and you can then heal your body and mind of illnesses. Deborah King draws from her own experiences and the experiences of the clients she's helped through the years.

She discovered that when her clients faced the truth of their illnesses with unabashed honesty, they often recovered quickly and were able to reinvent themselves with new vitality and energy.

Ignoring the truth destroys your energy and your soul. Deborah King's book, Truth Heals, helps you face the truths that are keeping you down, deal with it and restore your energy and happiness.

Many chronically ill people have been helped by Deborah King, J.D. Now, she's written a book that encapsulates all her success in teaching people how to face the truth and set themselves free.

The book, Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You, is Deborah King's answer for people who have blocks that keep them from utilizing the ultimate powers of their bodies and minds to heal themselves and achieve happiness.

The number of people who are literally paralyzed by the suppression of truth is growing daily and we, as a society, are becoming depressed and demoralized. In Truth Heals, Deborah King draws a precise map that will lead you to the truth and help you release the emotional obstructions that threaten to steal your vitality. She teaches you how to open the deep recesses where the truth lies without having to relive past experiences that might cause trauma and cause more harm than good.

Deborah King uses her client histories and celebrity profiles to demonstrate how you can let go of deeply ingrained fears and anger. She's also been through her own painful journey of facing self-truths to heal her mind and body and uses what she learned to help others. In Truth Heals, read about her remarkable journey to truth and wellness.

If you're wondering why the same bad things keep happening to you and you're tired of feeling constant pain and anger, read Truth Heals and learn from expert healer, Deborah King, how to use the truth to heal and restore yourself.

Deborah King is considered an expert in health and wellness. Besides being author of a new book, Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You, Deborah. King is a well-renowned lecturer, attorney and contemporary healer. She's been an "expert" guest on CNN, Fox News and other national media outlets and has led others to healing and wellness through workshops, articles and public events.

Deborah King has developed her unique method through research from ancient and modern teachings. Deborah's past is that of a successful entrepreneur and corporate attorney, but she developed chronic illnesses, addiction and emotional roadblocks that kept her from realizing true happiness. Caught in her own emotional quagmire, she finally had to face her own truths, and realized that keeping truths buried within was polluting her body and causing her debilitating illnesses.

Finally liberated from her past truths, Deborah King began researching how recognizing and ridding people from the claws of suppressed truths could heal the body and mind and put them back on the road to wellness.

She teaches an 8 week course on Daily OM that shows others how to recognize and heal emotional wounds. Part of the course teaches how to use the 7 energy centers (chakras) in the body to cleanse wounds created by out of control emotions and guides you through the techniques of releasing those emotions.

Deborah King, J.D., is also host of a weekly radio show entitled "Truth Heals with Deborah King, healer to the stars." She's frequently seen as a keynote speaker on the national level.

Tyra Banks, the former super model and creator and host of TV's America's Next Top Model and The Tyra Banks Show, conducted an online survey on TyraShow.com, the Web site of The Tyra Banks Show. More than 10,000 teenage girls and young women responded anonymously to questions on sexuality, STDs and pregnancy, the use of alcohol and drugs, and violence among females. The results shocked her.
"It hurts me," Banks told Matt Lauer on The Today Show, "because my mission in life is to raise the self-esteem of young girls. But I didn't know that it was that low."

What were the results that shocked Tyra?

On average, girls are losing their virginity at 15 years of age.
14 percent of teens who are having sex say they're doing it at school.
52 percent say they do not use protection when having sex.
One in three says she fears having a sexually transmitted disease.
24 percent of teens with STDs say they still have unprotected sex.
One in five girls wants to be a teen mom, citing pop culture.
About 50 percent admit that they've hit someone.
One out of three teens has tried drugs.

About teen sex

As a health & wellness educator, Tyra's results are consistent with the stats I see in both my private practice and at public events and they clearly point to the need for more comprehensive sex education for children.

While many parents make an effort to talk to their kids about sex, it's a difficult subject for both parents and kids. The parents are often even more embarrassed than the kids are, and the kids end up getting a lot of mis-information from their friends. Nothing new about that!

I urge parents to ensure that their kids are getting proper sexual education from a reliable source beyond what they themselves provide. You'll want your kids to have more information than is provided by the very basic sex education classes offered in school. You might consider getting information from plannedparenthood.org or other reputable website. They provide the straight scoop about STDs, HIV, safe sex, birth control, abortion, pregnancy, and emergency contraception. An ounce of prevention, rather than just trying to say no, can prevent a lot of heartbreak.

Role models, abuse and self-esteem
One of the best ways to help our teens have happy lives is to build self-esteem. A girl who feels good about herself is much less likely to cave under pressure from a boyfriend or peers. A guy who is secure in himself is less likely to feel the need to push a girl past where she is ready to go.

One way to build self-esteem is to have a role model that teens can admire.
Tyra has always been aware of the need to be a positive role model for young girls. As a fashion model, she had clear restrictions: no frontal nudity, no cigarettes, no alcohol. She has shown young African-American girls that they can do anything by breaking ground as the first black model to be on the covers of Esquire and the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue. She is of both African-American and Native American descent and has been a strong advocate against racism in Hollywood. Tyra so firmly believes in the importance of boosting tween and teen self-esteem that she used her personal money to start TZONE, a leadership and life skills development program for primarily disadvantaged teen girls in the greater Los Angeles area.

But our main role models are always our parents, so what are young girls learning at home? What, for example, did the parents teach the girls who were featured on Tyra's talk show about the sex survey? It seemed these girls were far more under the influence of their peers than their parents. As one said, "A lot of the guys, if I didn't have unprotected sex with them, they would get mad at me and I still wanted that closeness with them. I was afraid if I didn't do what they wanted, they wouldn't be my friend." The same girl talked about how she tested positive for chlamydia twice and also had genital herpes.

One problem with developing positive self-esteem is the huge number of girls who are dealing with the effects of sexual abuse. Abuse is about control and being the victim of abuse usually involves the collapse of one's self identity. The more we are open in our society about abuse, the more awareness we all have, the stronger and less isolated these girls will feel. When girls are abused, it's always in secret; openness makes abuse more difficult.

Violence among girls
Far from being "sweet young things," the girls and women who responded to Tyra's sex survey didn't hesitate to admit to being mean, even hitting others. According to the Justice Department, violence among girls is rising, with 1 out of 4 violent episodes being perpetrated by teen girls. Girls are being suspended or expelled from school for fighting, and police and teachers frequently see girls settle disputes with their fists. Girls have been videotaped beating and kicking other girls. At a birthday party in Baltimore, a girl kissed a boy on the cheek as a dare. At least six other girls aged 12-15 (and possibly two adult women, hardly role models) savagely attacked the 12-year-old and put her in the hospital in a coma.

Another avenue of attack is through cyber-bullying-a virulent form of social aggression. Social networking sites have become major forums for gossiping, spreading rumors, stealing friends or boyfriends, or social exclusion. Often the most difficult aspect of school life, the one that provokes the most anxiety in tweens in particular, is popularity and the breaking of a friendship.

Recently, Tyra was involved in the production of a DVD, Clique, based on the best-selling series of Clique books, which explore the highs and lows of junior high through the eyes of socially precocious 12-year-old girls. Having herself been both a "mean girl" and then the target of the mean girls, Tyra hopes the movie will bring another message about self-esteem to the girls she so wants to help with their issues about weight, acceptance, and staying on top.

Teen drug use
Tyra's survey showed that basically one in three teens had tried drugs. Other statistics show that happens by 8th grade! By 10th grade, illicit teen drug use goes up to 44.9%, and by 12th grade it's 52.8%! Alcohol is the biggest problem, killing over six times more teenagers than all other drugs combined (usually through accidents). In another scary statistic, 40 percent of those who started drinking at age 13 or younger developed alcohol dependence later in life, as compared to 10 percent who began drinking after age 17. And 63 percent said they initially got the alcohol from their own or their friend's homes! In an interesting twist of the times, overall drug use among youth is down. Binge drinking and cigarette smoking are down, but prescription drug abuse is on the rise, higher than any illegal drug except marijuana. So parents, keep your alcohol and prescription medications locked safely away!

Tweens and teens face a real struggle to find their self-identity. They are constantly comparing themselves to their peers and fear social rejection, which can lead to behavior that sets the stage for STDs and pregnancy, drug abuse, and violence. Without strong parental guidance or a decent role model, growing up emotionally balanced, drug-free, and feeling good about oneself is a difficult task. As Tyra has said, "Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It's about accepting all of yourself. You've got to learn to accept the fool in you as well as the part that's got it goin' on." I'm in total agreement there - it's so important to own all parts of ourselves, even the unlovable parts. After all, self-awareness is the key to happiness and health at all ages.