Ways to Seduce a Man

Ways to seduce a man. You don't realize it yet, in the next two minutes you'll discover a "rejection proof" seduction secret even the shyest person can master.

As a love and relationship coach I'm often asked by female clients and friends to reveal the secrets to attracting and seducing a guy. It always starts with preparation. My advice is don't overload yourself with "techniques" and tidbits. You can easily just try the following steps and start feeling confident without getting into other stuff. If you want the whole story anyway click here  now for many more ways to seduce a man.

Anyway, the trick is preparation. The right preparation builds confidence which is the key to..

Getting What You Want 

First, there are a number of different ways to seduce a man. The trick is is to think about what approach will work best depending on how confident you feel with your "target". Think of this, to begin with, as a carefully designed strategy for getting exactly what you want. If you do a little bit of cool mental preparation, your work at the front end will pay off further down the line.  

What do I mean by "cool mental preparation"?..Ok, lets be realistic. You won't be able to seduce any man you want. Some men who are secure, with healthy self esteem, happily married will be virtually impossible to seduce. So if you choose a target who is simply out of reach, it doesn't matter how many different ways you try, you probably won't get what you want.

So the mental preparation starts with selecting a likely candidate. You may already know this person, perhaps someone you work with? or may be someone you just met. It doesn't really matter, but it is important at the beginning (when the seduction just takes place in your mind) to decide what you want.

Seduction is all about control. You must have an end result in mind. If you don't, you run the risk of losing control of the situation. Avoid this by deciding what the outcome is you desire..to start dating someone special; for sexual adventure; to make someone fall in love with you; to add some spark to an existing relationship. If you're contemplating seducing someone where third parties may become a problem, its even more important for you as the seducer to lead in the direction you want the liaison and/or relationship to go.

The Easiest Way to Learn the Art of Seduction (without looking stupid)

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Some people have a natural talent for things, including seduction. Most of us have to learn how to do something first before we can really get good at it. The good news is that you can easily start to practice a few of the techniques without running the risk of looking silly, or giving the game away too early. The idea is to try just a couple of things, and then check out the response. Chances are you'll be pleasantly surprised. It's then that your confidence begins to develop and you start to feel irresitible and unstoppable!

Confidence is the key. Build up slowly. Don't try to seduce anyone if you're feeling low on self esteem or going through a bad patch. You may have to be ready to test and tweak a few techniques before you get a feel for what works and what you feel comfortable with. I'm come accross a few resources that offer more of detail on seduction techniques. Again, the best advice I can give is not to overload yourself with too much information about this. You don't want your desire to become an obsession. You lose your "power" as a seductress if obsessive feeling or behavior creeps in.

A Few Simple Techniques

1. Work on yourself first, get a new hairstyle, look after yourself, do things for yourself that boost your self esteem. While you're doing this, decide what exactly you want.

2. You have to create some kind of attraction first, even if you're in regular contact with the guy. Pay attention to your appearance and how you project yourself. Body language can be a complex subject to learn but the bottom line is confidence. The more confidence you feel, the more attractive your body language will be. Feel good because you want to feel good about yourself not because you want someone to notice you. 

3. Don't make it known you're available but be friendly and interested. For example, get the word out that you're "kinda tied up" with some guy at the moment. On the other hand, be open about personal relationships in general with him. If he reciprocates by sharing information about his personal life, you can feel confident that you can "lead" the next move without risk of embarassment or misunderstanding.

4. What men want. There are so many women I meet who underestimate the power of their "feminity". Now I'm not talking about looking overtly sexy or seductive or making any big passion plays. Men love all the things you may take for granted that makes you a women, your smooth legs, your curves, the way you dress, your scent. These are all assets in terms of attracting interest and sexual desire. Make sure that the best parts of you are sometimes on show in subtle ways. This could mean wearing the clothes that suit you best and gently give your target a "hint" of what's usually hidden. There is nothing more electrifying for a man, when he is getting on well with a woman, and he just happens to notice one day(by coincidence of course) a little cleavage, the skirt that rides just over the knee. After he "notices" you are a sexually attractive women, keep things gently bubbling along without any overt signals.

5. Try holding eye contact for longer that you would normally feel comfortable with. This may be at the end of a conversation or when bumping into him. Think sexy thoughts as you gaze at him. Notice whether he looks away before you do. If he does, it could mean he's shy and you're in the drivers seat, or maybe he's not interrested. Trust your intuition and stay cool. Try ending the eye contact with a wink or a big smile.

6. Make a point of breaking down the physical barriers. Touch his hand, or brush his arm. If you get the chance to be close, don't allow the usual spece that you'd give a stranger. Remember, you still haven't made it known you're available, but you will have made it known that you're interrested in him, at least as a person.

7. When you're trying different ways to seduce a man, remember you have to stay in control. One way of doing this will be by giving off mixed messages, as just suggested. i.e some physical contact and interest in him as a person, but making yourself romantically unavailable.

8. If he starts to make advances, you should use your "unavailability" excuse to give yourself time. You can perhaps drop in a few hints that there maybe an outside chance that you may be looking around and have received a couple of offers.

9. Pay less attention to him than he pays to you. Be illusive at times, but still share some fun and remain interested in when you do see him. Give him playful compliments about all the women he must have chasing after him. 

10. Your desired outcome. Remmeber you decide what you want. You are always free to walk away if things aren't working out. Ultimately how you feel about yourself is the most important aspect. If it feels good, fun, and what you want..go for it. If you think he isn't a suitable target after all drop the idea. For example, if his ego is becoming over-inflated by your moves and he begins to see you as a conquest...move on.

Finally, remember this your seduction..you make the rules. If he doen't respond in ways you like, find someone that will. I guarantee, there are plenty of men that will play the game and you'll feel amazing...Good luck!