Wedding Zillas: Bridezilla, Maidzilla, Momzilla

* Is the wedding all about me?

* Do I feel entitled to special treatment from everyone because I'm getting married?

* Do I obsess about every detail of the wedding and have trouble making decisions? Am I changing my mind and second guessing every decision I've make?

* Do I talk about my wedding 24/7?

* Do I spend hours online chatting and comparing notes with other brides?

* Are my friends avoiding me because "its all about me"?

* Is my fiance sick of hearing about the wedding?

* Are I focusing on the wedding instead of the marriage?

* Am I having temper tantrums and anxiety attacks?

* Do I expect perfectionism in every aspect of my wedding?

* Do I expect a huge shower, a bachelorette party, etc?

* Am I in the "gimme gimme I want good gifts" mode?

* Do I spend hours looking at my online wedding registry to see what's been purchased?

* Am I lashing out at my mother, fiance, bridesmaids and friends?

* Can I do two hours on my wedding hairdo and makeup until my friends want to scream?

* Am I bossing around the wedding party? The staff at the bridal salon? The reception coordinator?

* Do I demand to have everything my own way?

* Am I dictating hair styles, mani and pedi's and the same makeup for my maids?

* Am I complaining about my bridesmaids to everyone who will listen?

* Has any member of the wedding party stepped down due to my behavior?

* Am I telling my fiance that all the groomsmen MUST have a fresh shave and a haircut?

* Do you insist your wedding has to be better than a cousin, a friend's etc?

* Is your fiance making excuses to people about your behavior? Has he made comments about it?

* Are you arguing with everyone from your fiance to your parents to your bridesmaids?

If you answer yes to 5 or less questions: You aren't a Bridezilla. Some wedding anxiety is normal. You need to step back and relax with your fiance. Take a few days off from wedding planning. Take a deep breath, it will all work out fine. Nothing is perfect and no one will be the wiser if something goes wrong.

If you answer yes to 6 to 10 questions...you are on your way to becoming a Bridezilla. Its time to reevaluate this wedding and marriage. Are you in love with your fiance or in love with the idea of getting married? Time to get a grip and get a clue and relax a bit. Its a wedding, its about the two of you. The rest is just a party.

If you answer yes to 11 or more questions, you are a full blown Bridezilla. Time for a major attitude adjustment and its time to make amends to everyone you've alienated during the planning process. Do you really want to get married? What is making you so unhappy? Work on what's really bothering you and the rest will fall into place. No one wants to be Bridezilla and no one wants to be around a Bridezilla. Someone is liable to tell your fiance what you are all about in Bridezilla mode, buy him a pair of track shoes and tell him to run! Don't let it happen to you, take a deep breath and reaccess your priorities.

What is normal wedding behavior?

* To be excited and focused on the wedding and marriage.

* To have dreams of wedding disasters like walking down the aisle in the wrong dress, or walking down the aisle naked or that no guests show up.

* To include your friends and family in the fun and planning. While your friends are part of the celebration, your wedding not the focus of THEIR life.

* To think about your wedding 24/7, just don't talk about it 24/7.

* To have fleeting moments of second guessing and indecision. I always tell my customers, a bad decision is better than no decision.

* To occasionally compare notes online with other brides and check your online registry. When this becomes an obsession, it signals trouble.

* To practice different makeup and hair styles, but when you have to try each one with your wedding dress, its becoming a problem.

* To realize that the wedding is about you and your husband starting a life together. The reception is just a big party!

* To want things perfect, but have the common sense to know that nothing is perfect.

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* Nicely let her know that you've noticed there is a problem and their behavior is making it difficult for others around her. Let them know you are there for them and you are there to help. Define the problem and set up a plan to solve the problem. Do NOT join her in a rant against a tux store, caterer, etc. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into her battles.

* A Bridezilla needs reassurance. She may be insecure and she may feel helpless. She needs you to let her know that everything will be fine, that she made the right wedding choices and that her first impulses are correct. When she starts second guessing herself, jokingly tell her to snap out of it or you'll buy her the t shirt.

* Offer to help her with her wedding chores. It may be just a matter of helping her get organized. My experience shows that a lot of disorganized brides are Bridezilla's because they are stressed.

*Have a long heart to heart talk. Ask her why she is so upset and lashing out at people. You can sometimes diffuse a Bridezilla by just talking her down and reassuring her. Let her know you love her and that you support her. Sympathize with her. She may just be so stressed out that she blows up.

* Offer to spend time with her so she can destress and get away from wedding planning. A yoga class, a walk in the park, a massage at a salon, going to a chick flick # matinee, a girls night out, lunch, a day trip, shopping, etc. Rule number one, no wedding talk.

# Speak to her fiance, but do NOT accuse her of being a Bridezilla! Let him know in a nonaccussing way that she's stressed over the wedding and hatch a plan with him to take her away from wedding planning stress. It could be something like a picnic in the park or a trip to a nearby beach.

# As a last resort, suggest she visit her doctor and discuss her anxiety. It is abnormal to be completely stressed out 24/7. Some anxiety is normal, but when its out of control, please get your friend to talk to her doctor.

A Maidzilla is a BAD bridesmaid. A Maidzilla mob is a group of bad bridesmaids. She's ticked off about something and everyone knows it. She's not used to sharing the spotlight. It should be all about her, but this person called the bride is getting all the attention. She's spending a lot of money, and she's not happy. Could you be a maidzilla?

The Maidzilla test:

Are you constantly complaining to the bride about the wedding?

Do you dislike the groom? Have you told her?

Do you hate the bridesmaid dress?

Did you hold up the entire wedding party because you "just couldn't get around to order your dress"?

Do you hate the color of the dress?

Have you told everyone you'll never wear this ugly dress again?

For the rest of the test, click here: The maidzilla test.

The test continues, as well as how to figure out what's really going on with her and how to diffuse the situation. There's a lot of great information here!

Are you a Momzilla? An out of control mother of the wedding?

A Momzilla is a mother of the bride or groom control freak who insists on supervising every aspect of the daughter or son's wedding. She actually is an out of control control freak who has spent years thinking about her son or daughter's wedding. She is making herself and everyone around her crazy. The wedding is the focus of her life. She lives, eats and breathes the wedding, and it's not her wedding. In her mind, its HER wedding, the wedding she's always dreamed of...hey, didn't you already have YOUR wedding, Mom?

To find out if you are a Momzilla, or if your mom is turning into one, take the test!

Is the wedding the focus of your life?

Do you speak of the wedding as "MY" wedding?

Do you spend every waking moment working on wedding plans?

Do you have to have the last word on every decision?


To continue the test, click here, the Momzilla Test
Not only do we test you, we tell you what's going on with Mom and how to deal with your Momzilla.