why women cheat on men

Women in relationships want to be reminded that they're in a relationship. They want to feel loved all the time, and they want their men to talk with them. When this need isn't satisfied, they'll claim that an emotional distance has grown and that the relationship is suffering as a result. Women have many needs, and they're complex. They need to have a sense of belonging in a relationship, and that need is met by a man's actions and words. If a woman isn't made to feel beautiful and worthwhile, and a real partner in a relationship, she'll blame the man, regardless of why she really isn't feeling those things. realcause|The actual cause notwithstanding], when the emotional distance between a man and a woman grows, she's likely to start shopping around.

The second reason a woman will betray her man is the feeling of neglect. This is related to the concept of emotional distance, but it's not identical. Neglect is more behavioral in nature - for example, if a woman "wants her space" and her man takes her literally and leaves her alone, she may feel he's neglecting her because he no longer cares for her. It's crucial that men understand that a woman really does need her own space, so that she can grow as an individual and thus contribute more to the relationship, but if he leaves her alone too much, she'll cry "neglect!" and start looking for his replacement.

Women, like men, need to have a good sense of self-esteem, and they expect their men to provide a great deal of it. Even though they're no longer dating, they want their men to carry on the "courtship behavior" of complimenting their appearance. Her self-esteem will be get the reinforcement it needs from another man, she'll think, because she feels she's no longer getting that in her relationship - regardless of what her man's actually doing. If a woman isn't feeling good about herself, no matter what you've done to boost her self-esteem, there's a good chance she'll determine that your efforts are insufficient and start looking for someone who can make her feel better about herself.

The last reason a woman is likely to cheat is that the relationship's really over, she just hasn't told him. In one sense, the woman who steps out under these circumstances isn't really cheating because in her mind, there's no relationship, but that doesn't make the man feel any better about it. This is a particularly dishonest way of ending a relationship, because the woman is already seeking to form a new relationship while her man isn't even really aware that it's over. A woman who remains in a relationship for the emotional (and financial) security, rather than honestly ending it and establishing herself as a single woman on her own, isn't going to solve any problems by dashing from one relationship to another.

Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the uncomfortable truth is that they probably weren't suited to each other. How can a man continue to love a woman who regards him so lightly she'll cheat on him?Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she's not getting what she needs from you, and that she's thus justified in cheating on you, doesn't deserve to be with you in the first place.